Sending good vibes to all of my trans comrades 
As a reminder, be sure to properly give content warnings and put sensitive subjects behind proper spoiler tags. It’s for the mental health of not just your comrades, but yourself as well.
Here is a screenshot of where to find the spoiler button.
I don’t know if this is related or not, but would it be weird if I joined this community even if I’m a cis person?
P.S.: joining in the meaning of “clicking the button to get updates about the Lemmy community”. I’m sorry if I’m bothering anyone with my presence, this is not my intention. I just like memes in general.
This is surely going to affect my identity later on.
If you’re gonna, you should put your pronouns in your username!
so the question is, why do you as a cis person want to be in a trans space? that’s not to say you can or can’t be here, just something for you to think about
I meant joining as “following the community”.
This doesn’t answer her question. Why do you want to be here?
If I give you an answer, could you please reading it with patience? I’m not very good at communicating, and your replies are making me anxious.
Fine
You can join if you’re questioning!
I’m gonna be honest. This makes me question (myself).
yes, admit you are an egg and you can stay.
Egg?
An egg is a trans person (especially trans woman) who hasn’t realized they are trans yet.
Are you questioning? If yes, sure, there’s plenty of space for someone trying to figure themselves out and learn.
If not, fuck off. Lurk if you absolutely must but don’t fucking interact.
Sorry, I couldn’t understand your message.
Have you been thinking about your gender in any serious capacity
How would you define “serious”?
I feel like this should be self-explanatory. Seriously considering your gender as in have you thought about it and ever considered even the possibility that you might be trans, might prefer being another gender, or might feel like your current gender doesn’t fit you. Have you ever felt that the opposite gender would be nicer to live as, not in the context of a singular day, but as a whole life.
Because if the answer to all of these is no then you almost certainly aren’t questioning, in which case my initial comment applies and you should fuck off because you aren’t welcome here.
Pronouns or bust
depends what you mean by “join”
if confidently cis
good things to do:
don’ts
might be missing some points
if exploring the possibility you are trans, congratulations, you are gender questioning and can comment here to help sort yourself out, make sure to use content warnings and spoilers and err on the side of using too many too often
Thank you for the explanation. I’ve probably got it.
also, switching the language box to “English” or “Undetermined” is necessary for comments in this comm to show up for most users
nah, you’re good. and the pronouns thing is for interacting in english spaces and it’s fine to not add it if you only intend to lurk and learn and mostly interact in non-english space.
male is a fine identity, but males can use any pronouns so a male may have [they/them] pronouns and still be male, so [male] is useless to indicate what pronouns to use
do you want only [he/him]? do you mind people referring to you as [they/them] or [she/her]? if you don’t have pronouns preferences you can use [any] or [none/use name]
GOOD post
Just a heads up, most of your other comments in this thread are labeled as being in Portuguese. Might want to fix that, because I can’t see them on my account (had to go to a private tab) and I’m guessing that might be true for some other users too.
can also click on the rainbow star under the comment to see them (under on hexbear-ui, above on lemmy-ui)
That doesn’t work for me, for these comments. I’m guessing it really doesn’t want to show me comments in another language (but these are actually in English, so should be tagged that way).
oh, strange, clicking on it under the top comment should be the same as opening this link
https://lemmy.eco.br/comment/8746992
weirdly, can see the reply comments in inbox and respond there, so at least the people being replied to have a workaround
Ooh, click it on top comment, not one of the replies with missing replies. And yes I got it in my inbox but not the thread, that’s how I figured out this was an issue.
blocking languages other than what moderators can handle is intended, not sure the language field is something that can be edited after commenting, but yeah OP needs to switch to the box to appear here
Given you aren’t from hexbear, I assume its not just to support us in the megathread wars.
Do you know someone who is trans (like a significant other or child) and just wanting a better understanding?
Are you personally questioning?
Are you just here to gawk?
Personally, I don’t care as long as cis people remain a small minority. But a lot of people use the mega for personal stuff they would prefer cis people not to be following.
Also. Don’t say something like
before acting like that gives you some authority to talk about trans issues. And especially don’t follow up a couple comments later saying something like
(those quotes are from someone in transgender@lemmy.ml today, not here)
Just saw the person you are talking about, my god fuck them. Lemmy really is just reddit.
I wonder if they even realize how much they sound like racists with “a black friend”…
I’m not familiar with these terms, I created this account recently and I’ve been exploring through communities of various topics, mainly humor.
No you’ll die!
Garfield, are you /j or /srs???
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So I really do feel that way, but Seryph made a good point and idk I felt weird
Having an actual cissie asking questions might make me feel weird. I already feel weird enough.
But a “cis” person
I agree with Seryph wholeheartedly, I also wouldn’t want nosy cissies badgering our beloved babytrans
I like the idea of welcoming eggs too though, it’s a thing.
Who said anything about babytranses, that was entirely my own personal discomfort with the notion.
Uh just me I guess, personally I’m likely to field dumb questions and unload gender theory on people, but was thinking about safe space aspects and that’s what sprung to mind first
I’m sorry
Kinda wish there was an AskTransgender thread or something that cissies could be pushed into and we could play with when we’re bored.
Oh shit we should totally make that?? That could be
a new outlet for more purgesreally productive!Ash I wasn’t mad just clarifying.
Safe space aspects is what I was thinking about so you were right there, and obviously babytrans concerns are a part of that. I just mean that I was thinking about my personal comfort in this place as a safe space and wanting to protect that. I don’t want cis people who aren’t questioning to read some of the personal stuff I post here, it feels like a huge violation, like if someone read my diary. And I have a bunch of other smaller discomforts too.
okay…
well I know what thats like, I had that guy on a thread who tried blancharding me, that was extremely funny
if it were possible it’d probably be best to stop cis from even lurking, would be nice but not feasible really, we should just kill cis instead
Ever heard of the “[deleted]” proverb?