Sending good vibes to all of my trans comrades cat-trans

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  • Babs [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    4 months ago

    News mega: country is at WAR and fascism is RISING and weeks are becoming DECADES!

    trans mega: it is fun to be cute and take estrogen

  • DeathToBritain [she/her, they/them]@hexbear.net
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    BBC coverage of the Olympics keeps refering to Algerian boxer Imane Khelif as ‘they’ rather than she. vile behaviour attempting to strip a woman of colour of her womanhood, a common racist colonialist tactic. the white lady lost, go find another grift

  • dragongloss [she/her, they/them]@hexbear.net
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    4 months ago

    tw: outing

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    I was recently clocked and subsequently outed in public in a busy coffee shop by another trans woman that I did not know in front of my social worker. Is it not bad form for another trans person to come up to another trans person like that? The most I ever do is silently nod/acknowledge another trans person’s existence in public and go on about my day.

    It would be different if she was in distress or needed help or something, but she just wanted to shoot the shit with me and talk about our transness which made things very awkward for me with my social worker. It really pissed me off that another trans person would do this to me.

    Is there a Trans Code of Conduct?


    :::

  • Jenniferrr [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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    So I just came out to like a ton of family, and they are all taking it well which is very surprising to me.

    Is it weird that I feel weird as hell? I’ve been thinking about this for like over a year and like, it’s done, and a part of me is scared that I’m actually not trans, that I’m cis, and that I will have to go back… It’s weird.

    Like I’ve been doing this for a while now, really almost a year since I started socially transitioning.

    8 months on E, I’ve never really felt better and like all my suicidal ideation issues are pretty much gone. I see myself for the most part. I am happy. Then why do I feel like I’m lying to myself? Why am I so scared that maybe I was all wrong? I don’t wanna end my transition. But like I am so so so scared I’ll be forced to for some reason… Idk this is a really confusing feeling

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    deprivation

    Been housing more homeless trans folks. Y’all, I’m worried. This past year has been a spike our mutual aid network hasn’t seen before. We’re stretched real thin :x One house is housing four trans people in two bedrooms

    Fuck Biden, America, etc so on and so forth

  • ComradePlatypus [fae/faer]@hexbear.net
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    This Olympics trans panic is completely fucked up. What everyone said would happen when you police gender, there’s no trans women to attack so they go after cis women who aren’t feminine enough.

    The weird thing is that if you use a broader lens on gender (Leslie Feinberg, Judith Butler etc style), where gender non-conforming, “masculine” and “butch” women are transgender, a large swath of female Olympians are kind of trans masc coded just by virtue of being extreme sportswomen.

    It’s like reactionaries are gazing on this secret truth of the universe that gender is a construct and these gender norms are being subverted by countless atheltes, and then doing a complete 180 to be like “oh they’ve got to be a man”.

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    righteous fury, cishet scum discussion

    lemmy is filled with SO MUCH TRASH and cishet scum intruding on trans places. this is the only fucking place that is safe and filled to the brim with trans people on any site on the internet im in. even random discord chats let cis people come in and berate the trans userbase, and of course theyre fucking wastelands with a handful of libs in charge.

    i’m so fucking glad i own guns and live out in the middle of nowhere, if i ever had to deal with these transphobic cis fucks within 5 miles of me theyd be grizzly chow

    anyways, how are yall doing today? 😇

  • Bat [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    overcoming internalized transphobia

    i’ve known that i’m trans for like 8 years at this point and while i’ve always wanted to be a woman i’ve never felt like a woman, just a guy trying to be one. recently though i’ve been making a lot of huge changes in my life and about 5-6ish weeks ago i got on an anti-depressant and an anti-anxiety and it has done so much to change my mental state. i never realized just how much fear i was constantly in before starting the meds, it was so omnipresent that i didn’t even really notice it. so now i’ve been working through my anxiety and fears and my low self confidence and my self hatred over the past week and i had the realization of “holy shit i am a woman”. it just like hit me like a ton of bricks, for the first time in my transition i’ve overcome my self hatred enough to actually view myself as who i am

    it’s kind of terrifying realization

    but i’m working through fear instead of running from it like i would in the past. i’ve been really bad about self-sabotaging and i would usually run away from things that made me happy. like if anyone complimented me it would make me feel like shit instead of feeling good, being miserable is what i know, it is what is comfortable. the idea of being happy is terrifying, it’s scary and unknown. so i would prevent myself from doing things that would make me happy

    a couple days ago i kind of just realized that fear is just a thing, it can be ignored or worked past, it’s just something that needs to be endured before it can go away, and i’ve got to stop running from anything that scares me

    presenting full time as a woman is horrifyingly scary, and beforehand i would look at that fear and come to the conclusion that it is never something i could do. but now i know i can, i just have to overcome it and the fear will go away

    i’m feeling very hopeful about the future now. i think by the end of the year i’m going to be in a really good spot with all of this bloomer