This topic came up at work and my coworkers of all genders had no answer. Never met or heard of one.

  • EmmaGoldman [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.netM
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    Yes, but they don’t show the same style of unhinged, stalkery foot fiendishness that men do, and so largely go unnoticed along with both of the men who are capable of being normal about their foot fetish.

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    you don’t hear about us bc we don’t run around making it our personality we just quietly google aoc wikifeets

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    yes of course there are, the interesting corollary is what about patriarchy makes that seem invisible and if that applies to other fetishes. is there a fetish stereotyped as femme?

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      is there a fetish stereotyped as femme?

      • MFM threesomes
      • all women are secretly bi
      • orgies
      • Hondas

      That’s all I can think of. Though unlike guys freely admitting all their weird fetishes that’s stereotyped as masculine, I rarely see or hear women talk about anything more extremely than bondage lol.

          • someone [comrade/them, they/them]@hexbear.net
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            “Consensual non-consent”. It’s a whole interesting niche of dom/sub sexuality. The women I know in real life who are into CNC play were SA victims. They’ve said that CNC with a trusted dominant partner helped them regain some power/control.

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              I’m not passing any judgement on those women, I can see how that might be like exposure therapy or something. But those “dominant partners”… You have to be turned on by the idea of assaulting someone. I wouldn’t be able to do that and I wouldn’t be comfortable around someone who could. Knowing it’s consensual overall wouldn’t make it feel less wrong.

              But over time I’ve soured on the whole concept of BDSM, at least the S part. I don’t feel good about people who enjoy hurting others, even if it’s in a consensual and controlled way. Everyone has sexual fantasies but not all of them are healthy or positive. I’m not saying repress everything, but I also don’t think getting consent makes everything fine. It feels like a technicality. Even if it’s consensual, you’re still enacting the steps of sexual assault or torture.

              “Conventional” romantic/sexual relationships are full of unhealthy, weird stuff. But I don’t think it’s possible to escape that through subcultures. There may be some positive changes, but the same dynamics get mirrored and reflected in other ways. It’s like playing whack-a-mole.

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                  What should I think instead? It’s actually good and cool to enjoy simulated sexual assault and sexual violence on someone else. You can enjoy scenarios where you perform sexual assault, as long as you have consent, which is never influenced by social circumstances or relationship dynamics. Like, I consent to getting a job, but there’s still critiques of work, and I can’t really not have a job.

                  How is that not liberalism? You obeyed the one rule so it’s fine. We don’t need to look into the underlying dynamics or ask why these fantasies exist. It’s just human nature to want to pretend to assault or torture someone.

                  I think I have a slightly more fleshed out thought than “white knighting”, aka whenever a guy has any problem with the way women are treated. What other gamergate terms apply to me? Am I virtue signalling as well?

      • ashinadash [she/her]@hexbear.net
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        I rarely see or hear women talk about anything more extremely than bondage lol.

        Look everybody, RyanGosling’s never talked to women with incest or piss kinks. Lol.

  • TerminalEncounter [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    Yes, and they’re cool. Men seem more common because there’s some subset of em that are just not chill about it at all and they get in your face about it and ask for feet pics in public.

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    Every foot fetishist that I am aware is either a character invented by the person I’m interacting with on the spot for a joke or for hyperbole or they are a woman.

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    OKAY, I have never understood why people freak out about a feet kink. It’s unusual sure, but far from the weirdest thing people are into. Mfs treat liking feet as if it’s a snuff fetish.

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      I think that for some people they are uncomfortable with the idea that someone may be sexualizing a part of their body that is generally considered non-sexual.

      During my university years there was a guy who was taking pictures of female students’ feet without their knowledge in the library. Since feet aren’t considered sexual, all the university could do was trespass him from the library. Had he been found with an SD card full of students’ breasts, asses, or crotches, he probably would have been expelled or worse.

      Like imagine if you found out that there was a group of people online who are aroused by the color blue so they share photos of women in blue dresses or driving blue cars or holding blue objects. You might be inclined to think twice about putting on your favorite blue sweater or whatever.

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        I feel silly now, I’m never thinking about guys being such utter freaks all the time. Makes perfect sense to be weirded out given this behaviour. It simply did not occur to me because this type of behaviour does not factor into my assessment of kink. Why would it? Who would do this? Do not do this.

        Also I’m pretty sure there are groups of people online who do just that kind of stuff. Thinking back to a leddit thread about “unusual fetishes” and some guy said “women with clothes on”, to which another replied " going outside must be a blast for you".

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          some guy said “women with clothes on”, to which another replied " going outside must be a blast for you".

          Good god, the coomers are evolving past their weaknesses. They can’t be defeated by going outside anymore!

          To be entirely fair to the foot fetishists, their reputation is being smeared by a small group of them that the whole can’t really police. Think of a counter factual of the library annecdote: if some guy was taking secret pics of students’ breasts, it would be seen as him being gross as opposed to people who like breasts being gross.

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                There’s a lot of social significance around this kink which is deeply fascinating! I figured that there must be a good reason for people freaking out, but am socially illiterate and so did not know until told ✨

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      I think that people reference foot fetishes so much because that exists in a happy medium - it’s weird, but not disturbing. Mentioning it is funny but you’re not ruining a conversation or revealing your own potential interest in something even more niche and/or unpleasant to think about

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      I don’t know why but I understand. Some fetishes are just kinda goofy. I will always be more weirded out by the guy with the foot/vore/transformation fetish than the one who’s into guro or cannibalism. Yeah guy 2 is objectively more disturbing but I can atleast phantom where he’s coming from. But Vore? Feet? Transformation?? Why ???

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      I hate it because I’ve always disliked feet as far back as I can remember. Feet disgust me. I don’t even like my own feet.

      The thought of people liking feet makes me cringe.

      I don’t know why but that’s just how it is.

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    Take your pick:

    1. Nah the female version is forearm fetishism
    2. Nah the female version is hand fetishism
    3. Nah women do not have a sexuality
    4. Yes some women are attracted to feet, we just don’t hear about it, just like we don’t hear about how women or horny and the like
    5. Personally I blame the patriarcy
    6. Noone has ever actually been attracted to feet. It’s all a bit we agreed to do to fool you. Sorry to tell you like this.
    7. Feet aren’t real.
    8. Women aren’t real.
    9. Fetishes aren’t real.
    10. JFKs head just did that and Jackie has a fat ass and some cute ankles.
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    I’ve always wondered why the majority of female serial killers aren’t motivated by psychosexual reasons. Most of them killed for material gain; or they gravitated towards abusive people and kept killing them; or they did it for fun; or they did it for “mercy” (e.g. the killer nurses).

    Like everyone knows who Dahmer and Gacy are, but you’d be hard pressed to find someone who can name the female equivalent so easily.

    If you factor in patriarchy, then it contributed to the male ones becoming more entitled and angry over perceived rights being violated. But women also have their sexuality repressed and shamed, and abuses aren’t taken seriously and even encouraged as “tradition” in many places - like you can probably find women who grow up with the same or worse conditions as male psychosexual killers, yet those wires are never crossed at the same rate as the male killers.

  • Des [she/her, they/them]@hexbear.net
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    i knew one personally in the kink scene. she was a really cool woman and did a lot of social meetups unfortunately never got to meet her in person.

    not my thing but they do exist