• UlyssesT [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    To be honest

    I fucking hate that sentence opener because for most reddit-logo brained people it’s used to imply that agreeing with the poster’s opinion is the honest choice and that anyone who doesn’t isn’t accepting the honesty of their take. Fuck that.

  • silent_water [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    mods, if we’re going to make concessions to the other instances around our posting, they need to ban this kind of transphobic bullshit. that this user wasn’t banned is deeply offensive and rage inducing. how can they call themselves a queer instance and allow this kind of shit to stand? removing the comment is fine and all but it allows the user to continue posting this drivel at us whenever we post.

      • GarbageShoot [he/him]@hexbear.net
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        This is a tangent, but have you talked with our friends over there about how 196 is extremely hostile to our existence and what is to be done about that? It seems like a sticking point.

            • Frank [he/him, he/him]@hexbear.net
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              They’re doing internet edgelord shit. Kindness and diplomacy are evidence of weakness. They’ve already decided we’re ontologically evil, and anything we do regardless of what it is proves that. Unfalsifiable orthodoxy. parenti

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                  The quote

                  In the United States, for over a hundred years, the ruling interests tirelessly propagated anticommunism among the populace, until it became more like a religious orthodoxy than a political analysis. During the Cold War, the anticommunist ideological framework could transform any data about existing communist societies into hostile evidence. If the Soviets refused to negotiate a point, they were intransigent and belligerent; if they appeared willing to make concessions, this was but a skillful ploy to put us off our guard. By opposing arms limitations, they would have demonstrated their aggressive intent; but when in fact they supported most armament treaties, it was because they were mendacious and manipulative. If the churches in the USSR were empty, this demonstrated that religion was suppressed; but if the churches were full, this meant the people were rejecting the regime’s atheistic ideology. If the workers went on strike (as happened on infrequent occasions), this was evidence of their alienation from the collectivist system; if they didn’t go on strike, this was because they were intimidated and lacked freedom. A scarcity of consumer goods demonstrated the failure of the economic system; an improvement in consumer supplies meant only that the leaders were attempting to placate a restive population and so maintain a firmer hold over them. If communists in the United States played an important role struggling for the rights of workers, the poor, African-Americans, women, and others, this was only their guileful way of gathering support among disfranchised groups and gaining power for themselves. How one gained power by fighting for the rights of powerless groups was never explained. What we are dealing with is a nonfalsifiable orthodoxy, so assiduously marketed by the ruling interests that it affected people across the entire political spectrum.

                  – Michael Parenti, Blackshirts And Reds

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          • SootyChimney [any]@hexbear.net
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            That whole thread is the first thing that makes me think we should actually defederate with them. The amount of bad faith is untrue, and allowing such an unprofessional mod is untrue.

            Even after Ada made the request not to leak DMs, the response was just some awful bad-faith scribbling over it with a pencil and still keeping it public. Absolutely awful. Props to you for reaching out and trying to have a discussion meow-hug

          • AssortedBiscuits [they/them]@hexbear.net
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            she said she didn’t feel comfortable doing that and said I could.

            wtf. She’s the fucking admin. Does the mod have a gun pointed to her head or something? This is completely ridiculous. “I have admin rights, but I can’t do anything to a subordinate who I personally appointed.” Don’t gimme that shit.

            You’ve been had. She’s just the good cop in the good cop, bad cop routine.

  • Melonius [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    It’s really strange, I thought the alt right playbook vids were being overdramatic with the Nazi bar syndrome. I can’t tell if the concern trollers are unintentionally libbing out or just fascists doing their job to prevent any sort of left unity. Same thing maybe.

    I don’t want to insult anyone by calling them a bot or a bad actor, but I feel more safe posting here than over in their supposedly “less troll” instance.

    I think that response is weird. Feels like a nice pat on the back, “you see someone who’s a friend and is saying stuff that is good, but they’re bad, and you should cut them off. Also that’s a good sign that you have so many friends?” And an NPR podcast? Like it feels so on the nose I’m doubting reality

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      God we’re not even trolls. We’re not trying to provoke people so we can laugh at them. That’s not what dunking is. Dunking is absolutely sincerely telling people what shitheads they are. The idea that most of us are 100% sincere and we absolutely do believe the libs believe what they say and we absolutely do care about their beliefs, take their beliefs seriously, and accord their beliefs exactly as much respect as they deserve is beyond them.

      And ugh, fucking npr. I stopped listening years ago bc it was always “marketplace money”. Fuck npr, and the bill and melinda gates foundation.

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        The weirdest part about the whole “trolling to dunk” thing is they are the ones who come onto communist instances or attack communists on their own instances and make fools of themselves without any prompting.

        Though that’s probably why they’re so mad. The mere existence of communism is enough to have these libs go mask off and reveal their true colours, and they don’t like it.

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      it’s supposedly a sign that your minitory group has truly taken hold in society

      Huge “I think the trans people have all the rights they need and are more than equal” vibes. 3 comments ever. Is funding the ko fi donations though, so maybe just a very poorly worded thing to say? I don’t think a right wing op would be donating to a pro trans blahaj lemmy instance as cover.

      • Melonius [he/him]@hexbear.net
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        Yeah it might be more simple than that. The horrible thing about propaganda is you don’t need to have ill intent or even understand it, you just need to repeat it and the damage is done.

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          idk about that, i’ve met a lot of trans people living stealth and not one of them was really happy with that, it’s something you do out of self preservation instinct or because you think you missed the chance to come out and now it would be weird or w/e and all of them worry about being clocked way too much and have that nagging feeling that they always have to act. What makes me happiest about having come out is particularly that i do not have to do that anymore, that i can be authentic and true to myself and i couldn’t do that if i would have to fake being a cis girl every time i clock in at work.

          Yeah, i get it, good passing is practical and the less you suffer from your reflection the better, i can relate to that even though i’m nowhere near “finished” - but here’s the thing, i don’t see anybody besides baby trans worry as much about this stuff as people who pass perfectly and are conventionally attractive as hell. And it’s not just - or at least not only - fishing for compliments, being a highly assimilated trans person correlates really fucking strongly with a lack of self acceptance in my experience. And i also see a very strong correlation between being a happy trans person and not giving a flying fuck about cisnormativity.

          The kind of lifestyle you’re describing is a trap. And i don’t mean “being done with medically transitioning and financially secure”, i know a ton of trans people who fall into that category and aren’t of the opinion that the cistem works for them, because it never works for us, even if we pass perfectly and have the right papers we still have to live in a society full of transphobes. And when they don’t know we’re around, they do not hold that back, either. I know way too many stories about experiences like that from trans people with good passing, especially when it comes to dating (that is not helped by putting “btw i’m trans” in your dating profile, all awful men seem to universally share the trait of never reading these). And if that’s not enough, you just have to look at any queer news source out there if you want to feel trampled upon. It’s inescapable how we as a group are treated even if oneself is very safe from that.

          The people who are like you describe have not arrived at their position for material reasons, as there is no actual material safety for trans people in our society. This isn’t like being gay where being rich and white enough means you don’t have to worry. This is “being rich means that i can make realistic plans to leave my home country and everyone i love if they come for us” material safety we’re talking about here. Yes, that’s a form of privilege, but in itself all these privileges, passing privilege, paperwork privilege, medical privilege, being able to bug out privilege are not enough to become the kind of person you’re describing. One of your examples had to flee across half the world from a targeted harassment campaign. You see awful takes from trans people who still boymode after years of HRT and think they can never come out without getting FFS first, you see good takes from trans people who can live off their patreon money and are working on their mainstream media career, and the latter doesn’t surprise me at all because even these people constantly get reminded where they’re coming from.

          The reason some trans people become awful pick mes is not exclusively, but largely false consciousness.

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          Capitalist class interests will always override all others. It’s like…reverse intersectionality, where being bourgeoisie or petit bourgeoisie consumes all other aspects of a person.

        • Frank [he/him, he/him]@hexbear.net
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          100% this. We’re operating in fundamentally different and irreconciliable realities. We cannot both be right.i doubt most of them understand why we keep talking about history and theory and precedent, or trying to pull out citations and documents. That’s not how their world works.

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    Reminds me of my aunt who lied straight to my face in front of my family members that I outright supported the war in Ukraine. Guess analysis, predicting consequences and advocating for ending the war as soon as possible is now wishing desth for Ukrainians 🙄

    Yet she was the one talking racist shit about Ukrainians and saying “they should go back”, calling them lazy and other shit I’d rathet not repeat. I even mentioned that probably ¼ of all Ukrainians my age (20) are fucking dead, I couldn’t believe she was actively supporting them going to their deaths. That fell on deaf ears.

    The point is, that no matter what, and who. Liberals will always stab you in the back.

    They like racism, discrimination and being pieces of shit in general. The only thing they will cry about is @Civility@hexbear.net being threatened.

    She was snarky, making faces and belittling me yet it was I who was the problem for having an aggresive tone in an answer to a snarky and purposefuly provocative statement. My god if I said “kurwa mać”, it would be the end of the world! But racism is permitted as long as you are nice about it. 🥰

    I should’ve actually berated my mother for her shitty behavior, I’m mad I actually wasn’t more confronting about her racism and not just acceptance, but the defence of this shit.

    All in all, fuck liberals as they will fuck you over. Always. It sucks having to restrain myself over this bullshit, and not “making a scene”.

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    how people should act, and how we believe people should be treated at a fundamental level

    Hexbears are violating my human dignity by calling me a liberal frothingfash

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      sorry you need some psychopathic conspiracy theory to justify your existence. but people just hate you

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    No it doesn’t. Lmao.

    You’re just showing how completely unfamiliar with anything to your left you are.

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        “It gives off a massive Conservative pretending to be trans vibe / as a black man.”

        Saying this gives off a massive “I have never seen criticism of liberals from anyone other than conservatives” vibe. This is clearly their first ever encounter with real leftists. They default to “these people are conservatives” whenever they see anyone say anything negative about liberals and this only occurs when you’ve literally never actually spoken to a single real socialist before.

        You’re fair asking, I wasn’t very clear.

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    lmao I really love how these rancid motherfuckers just make shit up

    Like do they realize we can see their posts? Why lie, just own your anti-communism

    Honestly I’d rather be called a slur than deal with this sanctimonious horseshit

    it doesn’t come down to Trans solidarity, but what this community believes on a moral level

    yuck, love having white nationalist pedophiles talking about “morality”

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    This whole drama comes down to mostly cis people (outside of blahj) yelling at trans people for the imagined crimes of inauthentically being their gender. New place, same old transphobia.