Similar here. I’ve never had many friends, but, the older I get, the more exhausting I find human interaction (I am an #aspie), I started going on vacations of 4+ weeks on an island where I only interacted at the supermarket, because I had to, decades ago. I very deliberately do not maintain any friendships (and I’m married to a very similar mind, we live apart for years and only “visit” each other every couple of weeks). Whenever someone expresses their exasperation that I could want it that I am seriously pissed off. Just imagine that being forced to interact is as bad as being forced to be alone, ffs.
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Oh, I blame my aspergers for noticing. My conclusion is really just “Maybe don’t flood the community”
It would absolutelybe anxiety-inducing. But if they said so up-front it’d be less bad than my, deliberately keeping-it-vague, example. That said: I don’t want anyone that “just wanted to visit” and “shoot the shit” in my life. I want to plan social encounters at least a week in advance, longer is better.
I blame the aspergers ;-) I noticed that the newest 5 post in this community all were posted within 5 minutes of each other, all by the same user, all with extremely similar structures, the aforementioned “simple question”-style. They feel, to me, highly redundant and not realy like actual questions.
Maybe don’t flood the community with too many “simple question”-style posts at once ;-)
Yep, always was the “outsider”, the “weird one”, though nowadays people are usually more polite and just go “I don’t think A. would be interested”, etc.
“Hey, let’s meet up later today and do something fun!” Instant anxiety for the rest of the day. Plan changes are bad and worse if they are non-specific. There’s a reason I don’t cultivate friendships anymore.
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Linux@lemmy.ml•Thinking of leaving Manjaro after the AUR supply chain attack – Distrochooser recommends SUSE, what's your take?
2·5 months agoI personally go with QubesOS which uses VMs to compartmentalize. It doesn’t reduce the risk of a supply chain attack itself (fedora & debian by default), but if your VMs only contain the bare minimum for a given task the risk of having a compromised package installed is lower than in a full-featured system and any compromise is also contained to that VM.
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Linux@lemmy.ml•Is it worth attempting to make a libre version of QubesOS?
2·5 months agoAbsolutely in favour, the non-free blobs are a persistent thorn in my side. I myself have always been tempted to replace all the fedora and debian templates with alpine or OpenBSD to get smaller VMs (and without systemd), built as many things as unikernels as possible (e.g. the MirageOS firewall), and I’d love if X11 got replaced with Wayland (that one is hard, the X11 modifications are kind of the core of what Qubes provides).
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Programming@programming.dev•The Full-Source Bootstrap: Building from source all the way down (adressing Ken Thompsons "Trusting Trust" problem)
2·5 months agoYes and no. Buying a RiscV CPU has the same issues as buying an arm or x86_64, and building one from discrete components (which is absolutelt feasible, there’s multiple people that have done it) still means you might recreate some subtle and deliberate flaw in the spec (How sure are you there is none? That is the whole question). And trusting a FLOSS BIOS over a proprietary one is just accepting a different trust level/anchor. My whole point was that ultimately you cannot perfectly trust anything you haven’t designed and built yourself (and even that depends on this reality not being a malicious simulation; I am being serious), so you’ll need to consciously decide what trade-offs, if any, you’re willing to make.
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Programming@programming.dev•The Full-Source Bootstrap: Building from source all the way down (adressing Ken Thompsons "Trusting Trust" problem)
8·5 months agoUltimately, you need to build your own CPU (and everything else) from discrete components (assuming the universe is not a malicious simulation, of course) and bootstrap on it by writing you first assembler in machine code (You ought to come up with everything from scratch, any exisiting designs might have subtle deliberate vulnerabilities). The actual question is at which point you’re willing to risk a compromised supply chain, i.e. how far does your, quite warranted, paranoia go.
What am I supposed to do?
Learning to write a problem description that is remotely intelligible would be a start. What Distro are you on? What are you trying to accomplish? What have you tried? What error occurs (error messages or what expectations you have that are not met), etc.
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Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•We try to teach our kids to be honest and not to lie, but I don't think we'd like what we'd get if children were always completely honest.
29·5 months agoWell, I don’t have kids, but I think I’d rather know they don’t care, so I can work on that instead of being annoyed the next time it inevitably happens again…
Thx, I’ll dig into the spec next week ;-)
I see. So, the benefit is that one can start using the app locally but restricted to live chat only and can add git as an optional message cache for offline users?
I think there’s a couple blockchain-based ones out there that have similar zero-setup costs, but give you the offline messages right away by putting them in the chain. And one could package at least XMPP and DeltaChat/Email in such a way, since they rely on resending to offline recipients and can run fine locally.
I guess we’d need a full description of your protocol; Maybe there is a benefit I’m not seeing. Anyway: Have fun and good luck
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Self-hosting an XMPP server is not harder than self-hosting a git server, and hosters exists en masse for both. I really don’t see the actual benefit of using git here, but I do see a lot of unecessary friction because it’d be using the protocol against the grain…
Can it work? Yes. Is it a neat thought experiment? Also Yes. Is it actually a good idea? I don’t think so. Relying on github would effectively centralize it, so you’d need to strongly encourage users to use alternative hosters or, even better, self-host. At that point, why not simply use a XMPP/Matrix/DeltaChat provider/server? What tangible benefit would there be to using the git protocol instead of a dedicated distributed chat one?
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Technology@lemmy.world•LIPS Is An Open Source Sip-And-Puff InterfaceEnglish
114·5 months agoMy downvote stays; That is an absolutely atrocious title for it.
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No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•i don't like reading books. why is that?
2·5 months agoNot everyone enjoys the same things and that’s ok. I’d rather rip out my own fingernails than spend any time with “ai chat” shrug


Like I did something pointless that will likely encourage them to pester me about it relentlessly for months because “everyone needs friends”?