So, I’m currently dating someone, and it’s my first time dating. I was a kissless virgin before this but I’m not kissless anymore ^^. Anyway, we get along really well, sharing a lot of interests and similar views. They’re a “newer” lefty, but they have a good head on their shoulders and are open to learning. We’re really excited about each other. We’ve talked a lot over voice chat, had three dates so far, and exchange a bit of daily texting. At this point, I’m pretty sure we’re going to become a couple, maybe even for a longer time.
Today is our 4th date, but I do not intend to tell them I love them because I’m not really sure how love feels. I definitely feel attraction, and it seems very mutual. I guess my question is: When do I tell someone I love them, and how do I know when I truly love them?
Im asking because this is literally my 1st time dating and I have never been involved in anything romantic.
Congrats!!! You can tell them after 100 dates or right away, whatever feels right. You’ll just know when you truly love them when it feels right to say it. Love is weird like that. It’ll feel like deeper than being friends with them
I’m thankful to be in a similar phase of dating someone, but I don’t plan on saying love until we get closer. Idk if that’s in a few dates or a few months
Yeah, I dunno what to say about old relationship energy love. Like when you’ve been together so long you just, like, share a wavelength. They’re on your mind often. Someone who always has your back, when you have no one else to count on - your partner is there with you. When you walk in a room and can already feel that something is wrong or bothering them before they say anything, or you can feel their elation. Waking up to their smell everyday, even the kind of funky morning smell. You really become one… that kind of love is easy to know you should say “I love you” even though at that point it doesn’t really need to be vocalized at all.
For new relationships, yeah you just kinda feel it out when it’s time. They stop being a fling or casual and start being more, and you’re past the sheer infatuation stage too where the whole world sings when you just see them or read a text - although, I guess the world still sings a little lol