Adelaide Casely-Hayford, born on the 2nd of June in 1868, was a Sierra Leone Creole Pan-African feminist, educator, and author. Hayford established a vocational school for young girls in Sierra Leone that emphasized racial and cultural pride.
Hayford was born into an elite Sierra Leone family in Freetown, British Sierra Leone. She spent much of her youth in England and studying throughout the West, also studying music in Germany at the age of 17.
While in England, Adelaide married West African author and Pan-Africanist J. E. Casely Hayford (also known as Ekra-Agiman). Their marriage may have influenced her transformation into a cultural nationalist.
In May 1914, Hayford returned to Sierra Leone, dedicating the rest of her life to educating African girls. In October 1923, she established the Girls’ Vocational School, one of the first educational institutions in Sierra Leone to provide young girls with an African-centered education, according to historian Keisha N. Blain.
Hayford frequently traveled throughout the world, giving a speaking tour in the United States on misconceptions about Africa. Author Brittany Rogers notes that these travels also exposed her to the exploitation of black female labor throughout the world.
Although her educational concept for young girls had a Victorian-influenced, middle class domesticity in mind, Rogers writes that these travels led Hayford to begin writing and speaking on matters of labor as well. Hayford died in her hometown of Freetown, Sierra Leone in 1960.
“Instantly my eyes were opened to the fact that the education meted out to [African people] had…taught us to despise ourselves. Our immediate need was an education which would instill into us a love of country, a pride of race, an enthusiasm for the black man’s capabilities, and a genuine admiration for Africa’s wonderful art work.”
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sometimes i lurk on dating advice subreddits (partly out of morbid curiosity but also because where else r u gonna see actual humans stories n shit on the internet) and goddam does it attract some unhealed uncharitable bitter people. its understandable to get a bit jaded about modern dating and to guard your heart a bit but the amount of jumping to the absolute least charitable interpretations of peoples behaviors is pretty wild and sad. everythings a red flag, everyones a time waster, everyones doing a breadcrumbing, etc. idk i definitely get it but its still a bummer to see people becoming that cynical. but idk its just
i shouldn’t take that shit too seriously
I get around this by bipolar makes it hard for me to distrust people’s intentions so i just
assuming people are acting in good faith until they ghost me and then i 
but my brain leaks like a seize and to exist is to suffer so i just 
right back in next chance i get.
there are worse ways to be than trusting people until they give you a reason not to! getting burned is part of life and u dont get the rewards of human emotional bonds if u dont open yourself up to the risks
Yeah. I try to bet on trust whenever i can. Sure, it might go disastrously wrong but the alternative is a pretty hard way to live.
I remember seeing a thread saying something along the lines of should you disclose body count to someone that asked and most of the comments mentioned that it was both unimportant/immature but also should be disclosed anyway and not doing so is a red flag.
lol weird doublethink (though ironically if u do disclose it and they react negatively/put any weight on it that is actually kinda a red flag)
I don’t even know if it’s picky or not anymore to not want to date someone that ask, unless it’s related to requesting an STD panel or something.
Word. I don’t want to date someone who judges people on how many people they’ve slept with, that’s just weird.
I don’t really touch those subreddits just because the posts that get pushed to the frontpage are usually extremely cringe and enough of a warning sign for me not to wander in there. There’s also someone IRL that I talk to about my crush and he holds a lot of those same views and I have to fight so hard not to visibly cringe whenever he talks about the dating scene. I think the biggest problem is the proliferation of this type of mindset on social media as well. Both of my coworkers are always on TikTok or Insta watching the worst shit on dating. Like you take some extreme cases that, yes sound bad, but then act like everyone is exactly like this. I just can’t. I really fucking hate it.
yeah it’s a weird intersection of like the proliferation of misguided pop psychology and our just general culture of atomization and distrust and lack of empathy/charitability? idk its a bummer discourse 4 sure.
I imagine most people don’t take it seriously but, I’d imagine I’d be a nervous wreck trying to discern is someone interprets my own inexperience dating as a bunch of red flags. I just want to meet someone to talk to about stuff and I’ve been away from that my whole life so much that any social skills I had are just ossified at this point.