I’ll go first - those dudes who go out to nightlife areas to ask women extremely sexual questions on camera

cw: predatory anal sex

Hey…hey, so what’s your name?

Katyyy…?

Ok…ok…so…so…you having fun out here tonight Katy?

yeahhh…?

Ok…ok…so…that’s what’s up…so…so…would you ever let me stick it in your ass?

uh…what?

And then the dude looks at the camera with some look like “damn, did you see that, that was epic,” when to any regular person the whole thing was extremely awkward and the girl was clearly uncomfortable the whole time. I guess there’s a lot of overlap with the PUA scene, but one of those videos popped up in my recommended and I thought damn, of all the shitty guys out there, those are some of the worst.

  • Othello [none/use name]@hexbear.net
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    small business owners, white guys who never felt empathy before doing mushrooms then insist they’ve reached enlightenment and that everyone needs to do mushrooms, veterans.

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      white guys who never felt empathy before doing mushrooms then insist they’ve reached enlightenment and that everyone needs to do mushrooms

      Imo these dudes are doing podcast / tech bro damage control. Critical support.

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        i want them to do the mushrooms, its good for them, i just want them to stop insisting that we all need to do mushrooms too. I love shrooms, I did not need them to realize that other people are just like me and have feeling just like I do. I realized that at like 11, pretty sure most not cis het white people do as well. they just need to proselytized to people who aren’t me I guess.

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          I’m gonna be real, LSD helped me empathize, but not because I realized other people are just like me. I knew that.

          It was because it helped me think in different ways, where I was recognizing different patterns than usual, and became more interested in plants, bugs, that kind of stuff.

          It gave me a wider pool of experiences to draw on when empathizing. Now, when someone is stoked about a pretty plant or a bird or something instead of imagining what it would be like to be excited about it and empathizing from there, I can take a shortcut and draw straight from my experience being excited about that kind of stuff.

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            im glad its helped you in that way. It helps me be less anxious about things that dont really matter that much. like why do i care if my father disapproves of me? i disapprove of him!

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            Yeah I mean I don’t think most people mean they unlocked empathy or something. You can know something your whole life but experience that feeling in a new way. Like if someone was in a near death incident and they said something to me like they feel really alive, I wouldn’t be like “no duh.”

            Anyways I get a lot of people online who talk about psychedelics are rogan listeners so yeah not a fan of those

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      white guys who never felt empathy before doing mushrooms then insist they’ve reached enlightenment and that everyone needs to do mushrooms

      This is so specific yet I know exactly who you’re talking about lmao

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      Weird how invested people get once they’ve “reached a higher plane” and experienced ego death, now they go around preaching to everyone how they need to experience ego death and “get on their level” and act with a smug sense of superiority and condescension towards anyone who isn’t “open minded enough to see past their ego” and shit.

      Maybe they did experience ego death, briefly, but they always seem to invest huge amounts of ego into this experience after the fact.

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        I agree completely Hey! ReadFanon did you know that we are in fact reading Fanon for the next few weeks over on the theory comm? Could be fun to check out, maybe share some thoughts. no pressure fanon

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          Thanks for the heads up!

          I spotted that you’re reading Fanon. I’ve actually been meaning to re-read The Wretched of The Earth but it’s hard to scrape together the brainpower to focus on reading at the moment and when I have had the wherewithal I’ve mostly been doing deep dives into the Spanish Civil War but I really should give TWotE another crack.

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    Guys who change lanes every 2 seconds so they can drive faster. Does that really save you time my dude?

    The libertarian in your college class that tries to always argue with your professor with extremely flimsy premises.

    Guys who can’t watch sports without yelling at the top of their lungs at every play.

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    I would say selfish, egotistical, angry, manipulative men who are obsessed with their image and status, and use any power they get in a way that harms the people around them and society at large. Evil business tyrants.

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    The worst type is the cis straight white wealthy ones. As you remove adjectives from that list the guy tends to be (but isn’t always unfortunately) better. It increases the odds anyway.

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    Sexpats: Mostly white dudes in their 50’s-60’s who move to SE Asia to sleep with prostitutes on a budget

    As a white, masc-presenting guy myself, I’ve had a number of them try to talk to me about their exploits. They assume that everyone else is as sordid as themselves

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    The guys who are under the false assumption that all a father has to do is provide food and housing while the mother handles the rest.

    It’s a personal gripe, yeah, but I think that kind of thinking happens early where children use that to expect things from other men.

    Boys grow up expecting not to do emotional labor and assume that women/femme people would. Women and femme people then have the whole financial disadvantage of not being cis men plus having to deal with cis men who think they have the easy work.

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      At the age when people my age having kids is getting common. So many stories about new dads not doing anything around the house while the new mom works all day then takes care of all household chores. My cousin’s husband wasn’t left alone to care for their first born until like 5 months in.

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      Oh hey do you know members of my family?

      My hot take is that Men shouldn’t get married until they are 30. Learn to take care of yourself.

      Women and femme people then have the whole financial disadvantage of not being cis men plus having to deal with cis men who think they have the easy work.

      A great article that circulated a couple of days ago intersecting Feminized labor with Neurodivergence, Executive Function Theft.

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    I know it’s kinda risky cause you can’t tell with men how they’ll take rejection but I always just wanna do elevator-eyes and deadpan just say “not with you”

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    Related to the OP’s answer: self described “sex positive feminists” that do the college-age obama-spike thing of aggressively flattering/mirroring people they want to fuck but it’s all performative, insincere, and sex pesty. If they’re called out for being sex pests, they often become crybullies about it and believe that they are the victims, not those they are harassing. It was Joss Whedon’s career move but far from exclusive to him.