Like from what I understand you’re not allowed to touch the workers because then it becomes prostitution. So like. A bunch of boys just get together and sit down to watch some girls dancing naked? And they just kinda grin at each other and say “hey isn’t it awesome when there’s boobs?”

You can’t jerk off so they just go to get boners with their buddies? You can do that at home. You can just watch porn with the fellas or have a circlejerk.

I’ve never understood why it’s seen as a straight masculine thing to go to a place where the only thing you can do is get horny with other men.

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        I didn’t realize how low the bar was until I was on a date and she showed me what most of the messages she gets on dating apps are like.

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            The person in my story is Filipino and the blatant mix of sexism and racism in her inbox was fucking nuts. I literally got a date by being the only person who wasn’t horny or racist in the first few messages.

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              I’m curious what these people’s tactics are. Like I’m sure many are genuinely deliberately hateful and want their intention is to cause harm. But then there are people who are genuinely not house trained and think saying something about a woman’s tits or how their brown skin makes them hard is acceptable, with their full face showing lol

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                This was like 7 years ago now but the amount of people who will just straight up say they have “yellow fever” or who thought “is it true that Asian women [insert wildly racist stereotype]?” Was a good first message blew me away.

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                  I have a Vietnamese friend and she told me that she stopped dating non Asian guys because they keep asking her about Korea and whether she’ll be submissive (I don’t remember if they said that directly, but the general theme was that)

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      It’s so effective that a recent pew research discovered 68% of men under 30 are single and not interested in dating. We have finally figured out how to make men celibate, just get sexy girls to be nice to them.

      sorry are you saying that onlyfans is responsible for the state of American dating? That’s not true at all. Nobody’s dating because dating sucks now that we’ve eradicated all the third spaces and replaced them with app-based meat markets. They’re not abstaining in order to indulge in more thoroughly-commoditized horrors, that’s the thing that’s driving them away from dating in the first place.

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        It’s incredible how many people complain about OF. Like yes, there are things to complain about them, but more often than not it’s never from a materialist standpoint. It’s literally just “ALL THESE HIGH SCHOOLERS ARE BECOMING MILLIONAIRES FROM FEET PICS AND NOT WANTING TO DATE MEN OR GO TO COLLEGE.” It’s a mixture of misogyny and a belief in “meritocracy” - that somehow all these models are bajillionaires being fed grapes by simps because they’re all hot and popular

        Cam girls have existed forever but for some reason they never got the same cultural impact that only fans has. I remember being young and stumbling upon those cam sites. I scrolled all the way to the bottom and saw dozens of girls (and sometimes guys popped up) with like 0-3 views. Many were quite attractive, others were not - same with the girls who were top models featured on the site.