Hexbear has been getting a lot more attention and activity as of late, and while it is very fun to dunk on the new people posting on the site in bad faith, a post to appreciate the new good faith users contributing to the site seems like a great idea.

So, what new users do you appreciate, and what should other potential new users do to get the same reception?

  • Strayce@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
    16·
    11 months ago

    Hexbear appreciation comment:

    My instance doesn’t defederate as a general rule. It has its upsides and downsides – I still have dbzer0 and lemmygrad, but I also have to put up with occasional bullshit from exploding heads and similar. Gotta say it’s nice having you folks pop up in my feed to balance out the bad takes.

    • synae[he/him]@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
      9·
      11 months ago

      See, I didn’t know that and randomly picked sdf.org when some of the other instances were having tech issues and growing pains. It quickly became my “primary” account and in all this drama I’ve learned that I was very lucky in my pick. I definitely appreciate the viewpoints I see from hexbear users.

  • Marxine@lemmy.mlEnglish
    12·
    11 months ago

    You guys are the cool commie friends I wish to have, and I’m sad I haven’t met you guys before. Such a happy place to get some GOOD OL’ MURICAN freedom from all the lib crap we endure daily ❤️✨

  • north [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
    12·
    11 months ago

    I’ve learned a lot from lurking the unfettered conversation that happens here, subjects that I’ve never heard of discussed in great detail. The shitposting is next level. Just a great mix of leftie content here. Also, the site logo is fire.

  • luddybuddy [comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
    11·
    10 months ago

    I just got here from Lemm.ee - I was watching the defederation drama unfold and just kept thinking ‘dang, these comrades are based as fuck, I joined the wrong instance!’ Anyway I’m here now, reporting for duty! rat-salute

  • LeBron [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
    9·
    11 months ago

    Been lurking for a few months but this is first online space I haven’t gotten those fucked vibes from

    I’m still getting through my list of theory so I don’t feel confident joining certain conversations yet but I’d like to think being open-minded to deprogramming all the western propaganda bullshit I’ve ingested over a lifetime has helped me discover this community

    mao-wave

    • Flinch [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
      8·
      11 months ago

      I wish hexbear had gone with the name lib.rehab, because finding this place has done so many wonders for getting the worms out of my brain

    • MolotovHalfEmpty [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
      6·
      11 months ago

      Don’t feel like you can’t join conversations because you don’t have all the theory down comrade. We’ve all got plenty gaps in our knowledge and people are pretty cool about explaining things if required.

      • redtea@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
        8·
        11 months ago

        Sometimes the best discussions are kept going and reach greater depths because someone asks an ‘obvious’ question or contributes a ‘basic’ point, too. The simple shift in perspective can help everyone to see things from a different angle, which is hard to do even if it’s the crux of diamat. And we all learn when a question or contribution prompts an even more knowledgeable comrade to swing by with more theory, etc.

    • Commiejones [comrade/them, he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
      5·
      11 months ago

      Say the wrong thing some time. Folk will set you right. Its a bit rough on the ego but nothing stamps out brain worms quite like a stern rebuke and as soon as you say “oh shit you are right” everything is good.

      • LeBron [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
        4·
        11 months ago

        I’d almost consider it like an online anxiety lol. Mustering up the strength to not revert back to being a lurker after not expressing a thought succinctly and powering through the posting to stamp those worms out.

          • redtea@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
            4·
            11 months ago

            Otherwise how do I figure out what I don’t know?

            A related question: do you ever get that feeling where you say something (if you’re lucky you might stop yourself first) about something that you learned before becoming a commiewithoutorgans and realise it’s ludicrous? I do that so often. It’s like only the new memories and information have been re-framed. Much of the old memories and information is sat in an archive in the back of my mind, complete with a perfectly intact liberal outlook.

            Back to your question: when this happens to me it takes a [span of time] to realise that although I have an answer, I don’t actually know what I’m talking about. If yours wasn’t a rhetorical question, I don’t have a great answer other than to say: try to recall where you learned what you think you know and when. If the answer isn’t The Collected Works of Lenarx Dengping and/or ‘recently’, I try to err on the side of caution.

            • ProxyTheAwesome [comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
              2·
              10 months ago

              Or go back and revisit something you loved from childhood and realize it’s shitty and reactionary and you didn’t have any idea at the time.

              Dark Knight, CGP Grey, a bunch of anime (like 99% of it), Lion King, etc etc. There’s so many things dripping with ideology and it doesn’t even cross your mind until you have a Marxist lens shift

              • redtea@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
                1·
                10 months ago

                fr!

                I dread consuming old books, music, and movies etc that I loved when I was younger in case I realise it was trash and I ruin the memory. It’s a shame because I want to re-live those memories. But you have to balance it: is it a risk you want to take?

            • commiewithoutorgans [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
              1·
              11 months ago

              Oh I daily (maybe slight exaggeration) think about why I think/know something and realize it’s absolutely baseless and either drop that or try to figure out where I went wrong, depending on the situation. Just yesterday I was discussing with my SO how an oversimplified understanding of linguistics had led to my belief that, for example " 'TWAS" was only to be understand as a shortened “it was” and I remember feeling proud of the realization at like 12. But now I disagree, as 'twas has very specific context in which it is used, not for all "it was"s and therefore I was proud to remove it from all context and analyse it nakedly as opposed to seeing it’s relations to other words. Very small example but I haven’t been organizing/working for a few weeks so it happens less hahaha

              • redtea@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
                1·
                11 months ago

                That’s a great example and exactly the kind of thing I meant. My mind is littered with them! Although now there’s one fewer: I hadn’t considered that you can’t replace every “it was” with “'twas”.

                There’s just so much room for ever increasing nuance. Always something else that looks completely different if it’s understood as a relation. Sometimes it’s big ideas but not always (or often, really, as they’re likely the first ones to reconsider).

                I envy future generations who will never have to start the first however many decades of life learning an outlook that doesn’t correspond with reality. They’re going to achieve so much. It’s hard to imagine.

        • Apathy Tree@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
          3·
          11 months ago

          You know, I gotta say the whole Lemmy vibe has fixed a lot of that issue for me. I had some 500k karma on Reddit from comments, but I deleted all of them within a week of posting because the anxiety got to me. I wanted to be entirely transient there. Part of the conversation, but as soon as the conversation was over, gone.

          Lemmy is a smaller more community-feel community in general, and other than a few bad actors, it’s really peaceful here.

          I have wild amounts of anxiety about tons of things, and I don’t feel weird participating here (even without deleting all my content regularly!)

          Once you get through the “I’m posting to help everyone here” barrier, which that silly message on posts with no comments helps a ton with, it’s such a good space to exist. Even if you don’t agree, if you do so from a place of open communication and accept what others want to share with you, you’ll be totally fine.

      • redtea@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
        1·
        11 months ago

        Even after reading loads it’s still possible to be wrong. It’s good to be humble and see knowledge not as an individual thing but as something that it takes a community to work out. That helps a little with the hits to my ego, anyway. It’s still hard not to take a stand due to the way liberalism shapes the mind before it’s freed.

      • 420blazeit69 [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
        1·
        11 months ago

        Better yet, if you’re not confident you have the right answer, say that instead of pretending you have all the best takes and then digging in when people disagree. You’ll get an even better reception.

    • Mindfury [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
      3·
      11 months ago

      holy shit, the GOAT joined our website fidel-balling

      also don’t worry, we’re fucking wrong all the time. we then talk it out. it’s how we grow

  • AOCapitulator [they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
    7·
    11 months ago

    Very excited to have you aboard!

    No ableism knifecat

    Don’t forget, if you need to you can disengage from a conversation at any time, just say disengage if you ever need to, if users don’t respect that they get banned on the spot o7

    Please post, please ask questions, and remember

    John Brown did nothing wrong unlimited bloodshed against Slave Owners frog-no-pretext

    • 420blazeit69 [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
      5·
      11 months ago

      just say disengage if you ever need to

      Little corollary: this is not to be used as a “let me post a wall of text and call you names then say ‘disengage’ and call the mods on you if you reply” tool. You have to actually disengage. Learning how to do that is good.

    • Apathy Tree@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      2·
      11 months ago

      Omg I wish everywhere did that.

      I had a conversation earlier that I wanted to disengage with because the person was strawmanning me and it was clear, after pointing out to them already that’s what they were doing, I wasn’t going to have a productive discussion, so I said I was no longer going to interact and got 2 reply meaaages to it, basically trying to egg me on to re-engage, one of which said it was ironic I was telling him I was disengaging… Simply because I told him I was doing so?? (Which I did not respond to, for obvious reasons)

      I love that that will be respected here. 💜

  • hatchet@lemm.eeEnglish
    5·
    10 months ago

    Is there any generic “intro to Hexbear” post somewhere that I can point other people to when explaining what Hexbear is?

    I think there are a lot of people on Lemmy who would fundamentally agree with most of the values held by Hexbear users, but they never give it a chance because of some bad first impression (either they are told by others that Hexbear users are all just trolls, or maybe they even get called a fascist or something like that by somebody with @hexbear in their name).

    Would be great if there was some better intro. Does such a thing exist already? I tried searching but did not find anything.

    • kristina [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      6·
      10 months ago

      seconding you go to c/askchapo. the gist of it though is that if we smell a hint of reaction in anything you say, the knives, guns, and attack owls come out. otherwise hexbear is kinda very cuddly and a great place for lgbt users, it has some of the most heavy-handed anti-queerphobe moderation ive ever seen on an online space, it mimics the more radical elements of an irl pride event very well. well over 50% of the mod and admin team are queer of some kind at this point and a good number are trans (me included, i mod c/traa). the mod team also takes nsfw tags and content tags for handling violence against women more serious than any space ive seen on the internet outside of maybe news sites that have the default shocking content label.

  • Jobasha [comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
    4·
    11 months ago

    marx-hi

    Finally made an account after lurking for the past few months. This community is one of the few corners of the internet that doesn’t give me psychic damage. Hello, comrades, thank you for the warm welcome and for being cool people on a cool bear website.

  • proletarian_girlboss@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
    4·
    10 months ago

    Hexbear and Lemmygrad are very welcoming and enjoyable spaces. I tend to not like being on social media, and this is the one exception to that now.

  • stilgar [he/him] @infosec.pubEnglish
    4·
    10 months ago

    Hexbear is a hell of a lot more based than the old /r/chapotraphouse ever was, you’re all spitting fire 🌋

    I’m very tempted to make an account on this instance too, much easier to just open the Local feed that way.