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Oh my god…
Explains why I’ve been so uncertain and confused. Thank you for this!
Ugh I hate the part about being presumed “a gay man”. That happened to me, probably starting in high school, and it is so cruel… not because of homosexuality, but the presumption of a male-oriented sexuality - attraction defined from a man’s perspective. I felt so lonely and so isolated for so many years (into my mid thirties in fact) because nobody actually checked whether their assumptions were accurate or not.
I love women, and sometimes men, but I can never love them as a man would, only from a woman’s perspective and that is fundamentally different. Thankfully, there are people like my partner out there who understand our plight, so I no longer worry about dying alone and entirely misunderstood <3
That basically sums up my experience as well. I thought wanting to be them was a part of attraction. As it turns out, not quite
Oh I know, “every guy thinks about being a girl from time to time right? Who me? I suppose I think about it every day, that’s normal for a boy, right? Wait… what do you mean you literally never think of that? come on, you’re not joking? Never? Oh… wait… you really don’t think ‘what would this be like if I were a girl’?”
I was baffled. How could these other boys I knew not think of it that way?
