I mean… I come from the forum scene and they were always called PMs, as in Private Message. What in the hell does DM stand for and when did things change from people calling them PMs to DMs.

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    I think Twitter might have been the first time I saw DM used but it stands for direct message.

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      Twitter is where it started.

      And every ‘hip’ person started talking about sliding into someone’s DM and it became the default application.

      PM is still used in professional settings sometimes.

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        I somehow managed to read “default” as “segfault.”

        … I may have spent too much time debugging annoying shit today

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    DM is direct message and seems to have started around the same time things culturally shifted away from forums and boards more toward social media.

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      And now people don’t even understand me, like I wrote “I’ll PM you” and they said “What 🤨” 🤦.

      Guess I’ll have to shift from using PM to DM… though it seems completely illogical to me, but hey, that’s life I guess.

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        “I’ll Prime Minister you”

        “I’ll prime meridian you”

        “I’ll post mortem you”

        “I’ll prima dona you”

        “I’ll Pringle Mingle you”

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          “I’ll dungeon master you”

          “I’ll deathmatch you”

          That last one was probably used at some point in time though…

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        I somehow never realized it was a shift from forums. I’ve used both terms interchangeably with a bias towards DM. TIL

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        I’ll be you Dungeon Master any day ~~<3

        Playing Tuesdays and Thursdays, bring a barbarian or fighter.

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    when did things change from people calling them PMs to DMs.

    I don’t think I’ve ever heard it called a “Pungeon Master”

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    PM means private message. Nothing on Facebook or Twitter ever suggested that personal messages were private, so they used direct message instead to make sure there was no legal confusion.

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    I assume it’s direct message. I also come from the forum scene and grew up with PMs. The cynic in me says maybe the big social media companies are shy of using the “private” word when their business model revolves around exploiting user data. Alternatively it’s just language evolving over time.

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    I prefer the terms DM, especially if the messaging system doesn’t rely on E2EE. If the server admins can read it, then it’s not private.

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      Well, yes that is true, but still, it’s not public either.

      I might have to change my lingo to using DM instead of PM cuz some people don’t actually know what I’m talking about.

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    Because of the phrase ‘slide into the DMs’. I tried to ‘slide into the PM’ but the Prime Minister wasn’t having any of that

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      Dude, everyone calls them DMs, on FB, here, Reddit… in fact, I’ve never seen anyone call them PMs, except for me.

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        Direct message became ubiquitous in the wake of “slide into your DM’s” as a phrase.

        At least in my experience.

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    Direct message, I think it mainly comes from twitter where you could add a “d” before someone’s @ to message them, maybe the use of “direct” instead of “private” was to avoir the confusion with private accounts?

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    Just think of the P in PM as a D, but with a tiiiiiiny vertical line going down from the bottom left so it’s a P.