• magnetosphere@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    What an asshole. I’m so glad he’s someone she used to date, rather than is dating.

    Look at her face. From my worst moments in the past, I can understand getting carried away and snapping the pic in the heat of the moment. Still, though, how the hell can you look at that pain and sadness, and then send the pic to her without realizing how badly you’ve hurt someone you care about? That was a priceless moment for him to STOP HIMSELF before making things worse, and he just bulldozed right past it. Fuck that guy.

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      1 year ago

      Wow, you’re so talented to be able to perfectly understand the relationship dynamics and personalities of two complete strangers based on one photo of one of them.

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        I’m taking her story way too personally to be anything close to neutral. I thought that was clear, but okay.

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          I’m taking her story way too personally to be anything close to neutral. I thought that was clear, but okay.

          Your reaction was my first reaction as well, but slightly different because to me it was as though the pic was taken by an abusive adult about to swing down on a young child.

          That’s not in the pic either, but I take my baggage with me wherever I go, lol.

          No harm done either way. In my opinion what we’re seeing in pictures like these is exactly what we need to see in order to heal ourselves, little reminders of work yet to be done and memories still in need of attention. And you’re already self-aware enough to know that you’re not approaching it neutrally, so you’ve already started the work. You’re golden.

          So I’m saying I’m glad you posted, because even though you managed to provoke some downvotes, there is a cosmic fuckton of unaddressed domestic violence and abuse that colors our society and permeates every little corner of daily living that we would all do well to address. This pic is triggering as fuck for people who have had to live under that, whether it be physical abuse, or the unseen but worse emotional/intellectual abuse that this woman say motivated her ex to take and send this picture. It’s all one and the same.

          Thus it’s not what’s wrong in you that reacted to this pic the way you did, it’s what’s already RIGHT in you that so forcefully showed you what was skewed in it. You have a conscience and a caring heart and a willingness to pipe up and say this isn’t right. We could all do with more of that. Well done, IMO.