I don’t want to be intrusive, so what is a good “pickup line” to have? Especially relevant for lesbians as this isn’t necessarily a queer orgy but i’m sure there will be some bi or lesbians there! Also, what is a good way to turn someone down nicely?

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    Events differ in their vibe, but it’s surprisingly easy to just strike up a conversation with people, a well-run event will have people keeping an eye on things and doing vibe checks

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      Honestly, being a vibe checker sounds like a nicer way to ease into this world before actually participating, I wonder if that is possible 🤔

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        It takes quite a bit of experience to accurately read a situation, especially if things are getting kinky

        I’ve hosted things, where I basically wasn’t playing because I was making sure that everyone else was safe (first and foremost) and enjoying themselves

        I’ve seen inexperienced DMs either freak out, power trip or miss things

        One of the easy ways to dip your toe into things is to attend a few munches and non-play events. You can get a feel for what it’s like to start or join conversations with people in a sex-positive environment