I have a relative who’s son, about 10 year old, seems to be fond of me. He is an avid talker. He will talk about anything and everything with me. Problem is, he doesn’t understand that I’m an introverted piece of shit. Even though I like being with him when I feel like talking, other times I can’t match his energy and feel exhausted. To just ignore what he’s saying and stop responding all of a sudden makes me feel bad. He’s really a good kid. How do I tell him to give me a break without hurting him?

  • snooggums@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    Teach them meditation, then get then to practice with you when you don’t want to talk.

    Or explain that you are not always up for his level of energy and want to know how to let him know. Do this when you do have the energy, that way they know you still like them being sround but need breaks sometines. Kids are pretty adaptable at that age and not nearly as judgy as adults if they understand you are being honest.

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        1 day ago

        I’ve taught literal toddlers that my dog needs his alone time when he’s in his crate.

        A 10 year old should be able to understand that sometimes people just don’t want to play/talk. Maybe wear headphones or some other very visible indicator that you’re not social right then?