The first step to not doing that is to stop doing that.
You can DM me and we can be buddies. There’s a lot of social groups or clubs you can join to make some friends- I know that advice is tired, but it really works.
Do you have some hobbies? I’ll help you find a community or three. Don’t have any hobbies? Let me know what you like and we’ll find you some fun ones.
I know this is ironic on social media, but unplugging really helps me relax. Just no social media for a month. When I get antsy about it I do mindfulness exercises.
This one is just a personal recommendation though: I don’t like to drink when I’m down. It’s like keeping your head underwater while you’re drowning. I know it can be a release, but I was able to find other releases and I think avoiding alcohol when I’m down has gone a long way to making me happier.
This is all good advice, but even if you don’t follow it at least part of the issue isn’t that you’re alone, but what you’re doing while you’re alone…
Like. Years ago I decided to build a nine foot tall statue in the living room of my one bedroom apartment. It took me months, and it’s actually terrifying, but it also interests people. Like. No one responds to “I have an eight and a half foot tall statue in my living room” with “okay”.
Having hobbies isn’t just a way to meet people, it’s a way to learn new skills, grow as a person, and have something you can look back on and say “I did that”.
If you spent all your time alone building or making things you’d probably feel a lot better about the time you spent alone, and doubtlessly people would pick up on that
And before you say, “but hobbies are expensive,” I bet there are a lot of things you’re interested in that are cheaper than alcohol. You just need to find those things and start them.
Yeah. I was broke af when I made my statue. It’s mostly… I guess technically mortar. Cement and sand and burlap and chicken wire. Cement is not expensive.
And the best thing about hobbies is you can be creative. You can go dumpster diving to get “found materials” to make a statue, or go to the thrift store, or maybe the local wrecking yard. There are a ton of options for cheap stuff that can be attached together to make something interesting.
I’ve found some really, really weird art besides the dumpster behind my building, and the steady stream of old electronics has really helped in learning how to solder.
You don’t even need to open up a dumpster honestly.
Try out some MeetUp groups local to you. I found a local Web Developers hang, a local Snow time activities and a local board game groups that i’ve met some cool people from!
Meanwhile me, who is lonely to tears, yet drinks alone and consumes brainrot content at the same time while crying:
Hey, hope you’ll learn to deal with self destructing habits, every steps in the right direction matters !
And dont be too harsh on yourself, perfect is ennemy of good as we say in France, especially if its derail you from wanting to get better :)
They should make a group for people who drink alone to socialize with, like “Alcoholics Identified” or something.
Hmm, maybe we could call it “Big Alcoholics Rally” or something. Maybe we could organize them as community centers, and give it a neat acronym. Hmm…
Hey. Don’t do that.
The first step to not doing that is to stop doing that.
You can DM me and we can be buddies. There’s a lot of social groups or clubs you can join to make some friends- I know that advice is tired, but it really works.
Do you have some hobbies? I’ll help you find a community or three. Don’t have any hobbies? Let me know what you like and we’ll find you some fun ones.
I know this is ironic on social media, but unplugging really helps me relax. Just no social media for a month. When I get antsy about it I do mindfulness exercises.
This one is just a personal recommendation though: I don’t like to drink when I’m down. It’s like keeping your head underwater while you’re drowning. I know it can be a release, but I was able to find other releases and I think avoiding alcohol when I’m down has gone a long way to making me happier.
This is all good advice, but even if you don’t follow it at least part of the issue isn’t that you’re alone, but what you’re doing while you’re alone…
Like. Years ago I decided to build a nine foot tall statue in the living room of my one bedroom apartment. It took me months, and it’s actually terrifying, but it also interests people. Like. No one responds to “I have an eight and a half foot tall statue in my living room” with “okay”.
Having hobbies isn’t just a way to meet people, it’s a way to learn new skills, grow as a person, and have something you can look back on and say “I did that”.
If you spent all your time alone building or making things you’d probably feel a lot better about the time you spent alone, and doubtlessly people would pick up on that
And before you say, “but hobbies are expensive,” I bet there are a lot of things you’re interested in that are cheaper than alcohol. You just need to find those things and start them.
Yeah. I was broke af when I made my statue. It’s mostly… I guess technically mortar. Cement and sand and burlap and chicken wire. Cement is not expensive.
And the best thing about hobbies is you can be creative. You can go dumpster diving to get “found materials” to make a statue, or go to the thrift store, or maybe the local wrecking yard. There are a ton of options for cheap stuff that can be attached together to make something interesting.
I’ve found some really, really weird art besides the dumpster behind my building, and the steady stream of old electronics has really helped in learning how to solder.
You don’t even need to open up a dumpster honestly.
Try out some MeetUp groups local to you. I found a local Web Developers hang, a local Snow time activities and a local board game groups that i’ve met some cool people from!
Nooo, don’t drink alone. It’s so bad. I’m sending you an internet hug ☆⌒(> _ <)