• Phen
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    1 day ago

    Not getting mad when someone feels threatened by you is a pretty good start.

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      23 hours ago

      Constantly being treated like a bad guy, no matter what you do or how hard you try gets wearing. Right or wrong, it makes some men apathetic.

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        23 hours ago

        Either I look really non-threatening, or I’m just oblivious, because I’ve never noticed this. Probably a bit of both.

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          23 hours ago

          I’m a bigger guy, about 6’3" and about 230 lbs, so I get that I look intimidating some times. But I’ve honestly just walked past a woman and smiled at them and get a nasty look. I go out of my way to put out a happy and positive image and still sometimes get looked at like I’m some threat.

          It’s tiring and honestly at some point you just stop caring. I stop smiling and reassuring everyone smaller than me to make them feel better, because what’s the point. I’ve become jaded.

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      21 hours ago

      If I’m going to be treated like a bad guy NO MATTER WHAT I ACTUALLY DO, I might as well be a fucking bad guy. Don’t do the crime if you…are going to do the time anyway?

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          17 hours ago

          Yeah, and the Republicans made Canada evil.

          Women have treated me in such a way that I’m not longer willing to try considering myself to be on their side.

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            17 hours ago

            Why would you believe a position that involves hating an entire gender is at all justified

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              17 hours ago

              “We treat all men like rapists because what if one actually is?”

              “We treat all women like they’re going to falsely accuse you of rape because what if one actually does?”

              “How can you be that evil?”

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                16 hours ago

                So your excuse is that some other people of the opposite gender are equally as shitty as you’re planning to be?

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                  16 hours ago

                  Why am I held to a standard they aren’t? Why are you bitching at me about it?

                  I’ve never struck a woman. Women have slapped, scratched, punched, kicked, bitten and spit on me. I’ve never sexually assaulted a woman, I was sexually assaulted by female classmates in middle and high school.

                  Yet I’m increasingly treated as if I’m guilty of all of these things for existing while male.

                  So fuck off pretending I’m at fault here.