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Cake day: June 22nd, 2025

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  • Thank you for the reply. These rules are ones I learned to follow as well. I had to tell my siblings it’s okay if he’s saying he has to go to work tomorrow, that he’s caught a huge fish yesterday etc … whatever it may be don’t correct him. They finally got the memo and things are smoother.

    His primary doctor said he needed a colonoscopy and I said absolutely the hell not. I’ve had a few and they’re rough as fuck even when you’re fully capable of taking care of yourself. I told my siblings that was a non negotiable. No way is my dad being put through that, all the prep, leaving his safe space and being sedated? Insane.

    I have a lot more common sense I guess you could say. Things come naturally to me on how to handle him with dignity. My brothers are kinda brash. They’ve learned to ask me how to handle things and it seems dad is happier and smiles more.

    Sorry for the rambling. It’s just hard to deal with when it happens so early and you’re still young.














  • “ I’ll make time now, would you wait? I can meet you at the bottom but it won’t be the same “

    Cowboy tears by Oliver tree

    My dad is a cowboy who lived on a farm his whole life. Went crazy in his 50’s and by 60 needs full time memory care at a dementia home. The whole song makes me sob, to me it’s about a cowboy with dementia that I had a shitty last few years with. Love you, dad.