Yeah I don’t think it’s really fair for anyone to be generalizing people over the number of friends they have. There are shitty and no shitty people in both camps.

Yeah I’d like to think I’m not a bad person. I just have intense social anxiety. The only way I’ve made friends are when chatty people tend to talk to me and invite me to things. I’ve always appreciated when people do this, but then I just don’t retain the friendship when I or they have moved across the country or when we’ve moved into different life stages (ex: graduating from high school or college or changing jobs). I’m fortunate enough to have a friend now who is just nice and talks to me. Prior to that I didn’t have anyone for a while outside of my online friends. Some of us are really just terrified of other human beings is all.

Part of this is that I have always an intense paranoia of appearing too clingy, so I never invite anyone else out to do things. Notice how one of the commenters said they broke off a friendship because the other person was too clingy. Well I just break it off first by never engaging because I don’t want them to think I’m too clingy or weird. Even now with the one friend I have I fear that I text too much or bother them too much or things like that. I try to limit myself and leave them alone but I never know where the line is between never speaking and between speaking too much.

So I just chill alone I guess.

Thank you guys! I will likely be deleting this post soon (although I know it will likely be eternally on the fediverse).

I had a nice time. We just talked and walked and it was pretty chill. I don’t really know if I had to label the experience as a “date” or anything, but nothing too crazy happened haha. Found out he’ll be moving across the country in a few months (which I already kind of knew by this just confirmed it). That’s ok! Nothing wrong with just meeting a new human and hanging out for a bit. We’re gonna try to do something again before he moves away I think!

Yes we actually “met” on a website for asexual people which I why I feel a lot less pressure in this sort of scenario than way back when I went on a date with a non-asexual person. Weirdly though, a lot of asexual people still want to make out and have sex, but in general it’s not as much as non-asexuals. Thank you, though. I will try to just enjoy the walk and chat.

Yes that’s basically all I want out of any type of relationship!

I don’t mean that no one finds me attractive (not that I am some level of celebrity beauty or anything). I mean the other way around. I don’t have the capacity to find others attractive.

Don’t get me wrong, I can tell the difference between a good looking and an ugly person. It just doesn’t do much for me. It’s like having a nice landscape painting. It’s nice but I don’t feel some type of way about it.

I understand that sentiment, but this really isn’t the place for that right now.

I think it’s brick in some areas because that’s the converted basement area. The other parts probably already had walls like that and they just painted them.

It’s the royal throne.

Bad real estate? More like amazing real estate. I love it lmao. Well, except for the pricetag.

This is so stupid but I love it

Oh believe me, I fully get that I have a bit of “small boob privilege” in terms of being able to wear bralettes. Do the non-bralette, non-underwire bras still not work for you though? They seem to provide a decent amount of support, but idk how they work for everyone.

Plus why put this here instead of in the NSFW instance they came from?

I’m with you on that. I’ve never really understood why books are supposed to be seen as somehow the superior and more intelligent medium.

Why do people praise books as some weird superiority over other media? Is it literally just because they are older? There are deep, thought provoking, intelligent books, sure, but there are also plenty of brainrot books. The same can honestly be said for things like movies and TV shows and podcasts/radio shows.

What gives?

Interesting website! I’ll have to remember to try this when I can find where I put my tape measure.

Personally, once I found bralettes I’ve never gone back. My boobs are small enough that they work just fine. The comfort level has gone up by like ten billion. Bras without underwire come in second but still not the greatest. I just can’t really understand bras with underwire.

Tbh, I’m able to go braless under loose fitting sweaters, but for any other shirt, I just don’t have the right boob shape for it.

Yeah 10 year old me didn’t have much thoughts about the future. Similar but not the exact same as you, but 15 year old me would be surprised that I have someone in my life who considers me a friend. 15 year old me would probably be disappointed that I didn’t go to med school, but imo I make decent enough money.

I’m glad things are going pretty good for you right now. :)

I’m so confused at the mechanics of this. He climbed on top of the hood? And then what on top of the hood? That seems like quite a feat and also very messy and also why??? I have so many questions, many of which only the shitting man could answer.

This reminds me. Years ago as a teen I joined a relatively small forum. I got weirded the fuck out when someone on there happened to live in the exact same small town I did. I’ve moved across the country since then but we are still online friends lol.

It’s just kind of interesting to be asking the red states about this. Red states were already living in that kind of environment. I feel like it’s the blue states that people should be asking this question to. I live in a red state. I hate the politics here but life isn’t too much different than when I lived in a blue state. I am privileged to be cis tho, so I’d imagine if I were trans I would be terrified. I mean, I’m still a bit scared, but I am a bit of a lucky individual.

I’m stupid. Someone explain the joke.

$525/mo for a 2 bedroom apartment? I’m going to cry.