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  • berrodeguaranatomemes@lemmy.worldWhat a concept!
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    6 months ago

    I understand finding these things funny when you are a cool, level-headed person or not in a moment of fight or flee situation, but many of us fall prey to dumb reasoning in emotional situations.

    Going slightly off-topic, but I’d wager many people have spent a lot of unnecessary money or gone to jail in the heat of the moment. And many of Sun Tzu’s or Lao Tzi’s (Tao) advice is like: “stop, breathe, and think it through mofo, stop being an impulsive idiot and paying a high price for it”



  • I try to remind myself that, in the great scheme of things (i.e, evolution) a “step forward, two steps back” is a common thing in this chaotic universe of ours.

    Meteors, dinosaurs, civil wars, capitalism issues, pandemics, murder, genocide, climatic changes… it’s all accounted for.

    Of course, the answer is different if you are suffering directly from these things (apart from the meteors and dinosaurs) I mentioned above, then things suddenly get VERY personal and provoke impulsive reactions from our end.



  • berrodeguaranatomemes@lemmy.worldTaking for granted
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    6 months ago

    Stupid question, wasn’t that a risky move? I mean, due to the way I was raised to think by my parents, I can hear their voices in the back of my head if I went through a situation like this, similar to:

    “But aren’t you worried they might hire you then fire you just out of spite for switching companies? And then what are you gonna do?”










  • I feel you.

    On your 3rd paragraph, I also have no idea why this happens, but we are not the only ones. Maybe people get the idea we became too self-centered?

    I cannot comment on you because I don’t know you, but in my case, if I were to be self-critic, I always focus too much on my career, wife, hobbies, household chores, family… friends were always the last priority on my schedule. People pick up on that quickly, idk.

    I do have some friends though who are low maintenance and with these I find its much easier to keep friends with. We can go 6 months without seeing each other and its still fun to get together.


  • I am that friend that vanished that you are describing.

    In my case, I tried talking to the friend that bothered me ( an unmedicated ADHD alcoholic mess of a friend) he told me to fuck off.

    I even stopped hanging out with my old group of friends that involved this guy that I described because it became this: male anger space to vent off, suicide jokes, complain about work, glorify alcohol, try out different types of drugs. No, thank you, I don’t want to do a live action of Rick n Morty.

    There is no talking with a group where everyone decided to stay together on a shitty decision. I tried once and they got really angry and made me the wrong one for going to the gym, waking up early, quitting alcohol, etc.

    I still keep in touch from afar and now, almost 10 years later, some of them are saying " yeah, the doctor told me to drop the alcohol", " yeah now I found the right meds for me and I aint as angry"

    Everybody goes at their own pace, but expecting other friends to stay with you during this journey is ludicrous.

    I went my way and although it hurt, sometimes its the best thing you can do for your mental health and integrity