No need to apologize, I’ve been getting worse as of late.

Not gonna judge because I’ve probably been somewhere similar before. I am not exactly who I was yesterday either. I hope that you make it through the other side of whatever is hurting you and start to feel pain free again.****

I hope I’m reading this wrong and I truly apologize if I am but I’m getting pretty strong ‘asshole’ vibes here, much stronger than I would from anyone using the word “normie”, personally.

But either way, it’s actually good to know when words I previously felt were overall harmless can cause this kind of response. I may not be from the USA, or have come from a background where it’s such a charged word, but I’m on a platform that’s likely mostly American (based on the news and politics that come through ‘All’), so I will refrain from using it unless I find it absolutely necessary.

Which should be fairly easy to do, considering that I barely ever use it anyway and just thought that this would be an amusing conversation.

:3

Yeah honestly it’s not that serious for me. Personally I’ve never even visited the front page of 4chan. It’s a word that’s been around since long before social media too, as far as I know. One other place I’ve seen it used is autism communities when someone is describing their feelings about fitting in, or not.

I feel like 4chan is a US-centric thing. And a niche one at that. So it’s a very niche US-centric thing to assume about random strangers on the world wide web. For a word that a lot of people probably use differently.

What an alpha.

Sorry for going on here but just want to say, reading through all of the features for Piefed I already like what I’m seeing very much. Before I’ve even tried an account. The approach and philosophy towards moderation in particular makes me confident that I wouldn’t be instance hopping much there based on those sorts of disagreements.

Edit: also something nice is the ability to use the same import/export from Lemmy.

Nice, thank you very much! I’ll definitely be checking it out. As long as I can access these forums or something similar with decent activity and users, I’ll be happy.

Yeah I chose the most populated instance there to create an account and check things out. But the app kind of stopped my exploration dead. It’s a little barebones right now for my tastes right now, especially as far as customisation goes. And I’d be spending more time there than in front of my laptop.

Right now I think the only features that I’m really missing here on Lemmy itself are posting to your own profile and multicommunities.

And it would be great if instances like Blåhaj could enforce their own rules regarding things like downvotes properly, so that they could be disabled there for EVERYONE but enabled in places that still allow downvotes (this should go for individual communities too). The current implementation seems a little like an afterthought on the Lemmy devs’ part.

Edit: the biggest problem that I can see so far with excluding Blåhaj users from even seeing downvotes is that it gives an incorrect perception of things. If a bigot gets 2 upvotes and 20 downvotes, I’ll only see the 2 upvotes.

Next step: political adverts that quiz you on what you’ve just heard and repeat each segment if you get the answer wrong.

Just kidding though (or am I). This is truly some dystopian shit. My first reaction was what the actual fuck. And I bet you that their numbers aren’t really going to hurt that much because of this. Mark my words.

Doesn’t have the same vibes though. To me ‘normie’ has always been a little bit of an insult on top of just describing the ‘average person’. “Average person” is for when you’re describing statistics. “Normie” is for when you’re describing people that clutch their pearls and their bible when a goth walks past.

Yeah, I use “normie” occasionally and it kinda makes me feel like le edgy teen. But the problem is that I’m not sure if there’s another word that quite replaces it either. Sometimes it’s the only word that works in a particular context.

Apologies for the second reply. Just wanted to say that I checked out mbin and it’s probably more up my alley personally.

But, I still have a barely used Facebook account because a lot of people in my country are still on it. And I’m going to see if the rumours are true and try to spread the news about Friendica there, hopefully without my post getting removed or account being banned.

And if / when people from there give Friendica a shot, then I’ll give it a proper shot too with them. It’ll just be used for different things than what I use Lemmy for.

Basically I would be spending much more time in Lemmy communities, and I thought Friendica could be something extra on top to supplement it.

So I would like to be able to browse instances and communities and choose what I want to see and participate in. Either by subscribing or curating a feed or two. I don’t see an obvious way to do this from Friendica yet. It seems like here I need to scroll through a pre existing feed and curate it from there.

But please bear in mind, I haven’t explored extensively yet or read the link you shared earlier, although I have saved that post so that I can get back to it later in my day.

And another small thing for me (that can be easily fixed by styles and apps) is no apparent dark mode.

Made a quick account there to check things out and not sure if it’s entirely the right fit for the particular use case I had in mind. It’s very much inspired by Facebook obviously, which I was expecting but from what I can tell from a quick look, not the kind of Lemmy integration I was hoping for or imagining.

I’m going to keep an eye on this place though, so that I can start encouraging friends and family to join once it’s easy and attractive (in terms of content) for anyone to join.

Maybe I should ask here. The reason I’m here is because I’m looking for answers to this. As far as the integration with Lemmy goes, how does it work? Is there a ‘Friendica’ instance that anyone using that platform would be posting and interacting from? And in that case, does it play nicely with the other instances?

I’m pretty new here, probably moving to another instance at some point anyway. And I’ve been thinking of looking into these multi purpose platforms that play nicely with others. Because why not have more features and tools to play with, even if I don’t use half of them. It might also fill in nicely for features that are missing here like multicommunities and posting to your own profile.

Also heard of mbin, although an in app search for something like “mbin” seems pretty useless here.

You just made me check a post I made yesterday for the app I’m using, to report a couple of bugs. Looking at the page for the Eternity app in a signed out lemmy.world instance and sorting by new, my post appears to not be there indeed.

Edit: resolved super quickly

I hear your point but also it might be a mostly first world thing. So kinda like comparing local country music artists to Michael Jackson. Maybe other 3rd world denizens can chip in but here (so this is purely anecdotal) but in my corner of the world, we watched movies and series and played games and shit like we would’ve pre social media.

Personally I’m not even sure what Tiger King is (and not that interested in finding out either, if I’m being honest) and if I go outside and ask around here, I’m not sure how many answers I would get. Possibly I’d get an answer once school is out and kids are around, I guess.

Edit: just to add, I hope this doesn’t go the same way as the time I was trying to explain to Americans that the NBA really isn’t this global phenomenon in every household and that John Cena is probably more famous here.

Yeah, this kind of thing makes me glad that I got banned from Reddit too. People jump on any excuse to shit on women there. The place seems progressive on the surface and has some pretty great feminist and queer communities but there has always been this underlying current there in the larger Reddit.

People dogpile and seem to almost take glee when there’s a chance to shit on a woman for something. It gives me the impression that they just love to jump on any chance they get to go “See? The ‘females’ are also bad.” But it comes with 10x the spite and hate, like with Ellen Pao versus anything that has happened on Reddit since. If they had a female CEO during the API thing, they would’ve tanked.

Another one of my favourites was a thread discussing a 10km fun run for mostly non serious athletes, where it was suggested that it was a little silly to have separate male and female categories (I think it might have even involveda woman getting best time but a lesser prize). And the thread kinda filled up with walls of text about hand grip strength and in depth analysis on Olympic athletes. For a fun run.

But imagine going around calling teenage girls “whores”. What pieces of shit. Funnily enough, the comment that got me banned from Reddit was a comment calling out men in general for allowing men in general to be pieces of shit (in a subreddit meant for calling out misogyny no less). But calling teenage girls “whores” is ok. I guess I’d expect nothing less from the ex moderator of jailbait.

Is that really the same thing though? Just for a random example of the first actor that popped in my head, Chloe Grace Moretz probably doesn’t have as big a social media following as Skibidi Kid or whereas I could probably find random people in the streets in the 3rd world country that I live in if I just had to start bringing up her name without any further details. Whereas Skibidi Kid is only known by the other Skibidi kids on that particular platform and probably won’t even be a big deal next year, like Dab Kid.

I used to see people express the same sentiment towards YouTubers and it’s the same deal there IMO. SaltyPeeDrinker or whatever might cause a big ruckus in certain circles on the internet and have a bunch of incel fans but outside of the internet and in the real world, nobody actually gives a fuck. Not in remotely the same way as with movie stars, music stars, sports stars etc. These people aren’t that important or significant, they’re just another feature of online brainrot.

Edit: I feel like online ‘content’ creators are related to actors and musicians in the same way that AI art is related to human art or reality TV is related to Breaking Bad.

Kiki’s Delivery Service (could’ve been a little more than a week ago), When Marnie was There, The Tale of Princess Kaguya and currently about half way through Nausicaä of the Valley of Wind because I saw someone else here on Lemmy mention it. And I might throw in Pom Poko. I’ve watched all of the Ghibli movies before but the mood to rewatch a few took me.

Oh and also TNA Wrestling lmao.