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  • I’m doing okay in general but not great right now. Tests really are free for me and I can pretty much do as many as I want. But I exist with transphobic parents so that’s not happening for a year or more.

    I’ve come out in some places now and lost some of the fear. But now I have a different problem, namely that my voice still sucks because it turns out doing all voice training quietly in my room to avoid being heard, means I can only do the new voice quietly -_-. So now I have to somehow translate that to a more usable voice and make it less dependent on confidence (right now it collapses whenever I’m not confident enough).



  • It’s insane that your parents test your blood for estrogen, that feels abusive and like something that should be illegal.

    its a part of the blood test that i do for vitamin d regularly so i dont get a severe deficiency. T and E were both tested last time on request of my parents to know if maybe something was wrong with my hormone levels to cause my transness. turned out to be false of course. no idea if it will be tested again but i consider it a 50/50 chance.

    EDIT: I’m not a lawyer, but searching around I found that at your age you can probably legally reject the blood test, see: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mature_minor_doctrine

    this is only a thing in the US and i am in germany also it would be super suspicious to my parents


  • (i read all of this but do not have any comments except for on one part)

    I am also doing monotherapy as that is the only option I have. I do DIY-HRT and none of the sellers i have access to sell anything but estradiol anyway, so this is an easy choice.

    FYI, I will be going on Estradiol Enanthate. I’m still not 100% sure when it comes to how I’ll be dosing things, and I cannot start yet because I have a parent-controlled blood test scheduled for a month from now (the last one before I turn 18). I do already have all the injection supplies and the estradiol itself though!


  • The thing is, thinking that way actually impedes your ability to pass. Passing is not a product of any individual thing but many things, and how people perceive and respond to you depends on lots of factors many of them do not do with physiological gender signifiers. I spent years denying myself everything I ever wanted. I wore loose baggy clothes, I didn’t try with my skincare or haircare, I would obsess about the way people perceived me and tear myself apart in the mirror over every little detail. I was making myself miserable, and holding myself back and being so obviously insecure about these things actually made me less likely to pass. Fully embracing my style and showcasing my curves and my skin has made a massive difference in the likelihood of me passing. I rarely do not pass anymore.

    look at you literally describing me!

    It’s okay if you can’t today, or if you still want to wait.

    is it? i feel two conflicting things:

    • if i start now i have a higher chance of being happy
    • if i wait i will be more secure and sure that this is right and have a higher chance of being happy


  • Dysphoria is not what makes someone transgender!

    Yeah I know. I’ve already cut off ties with that friend mostly.


    CW: rest of this message is infused with my brain worms around passing

    Many transfem people do not pass. […] You don’t owe it to anyone to look a certain way before you can be yourself.

    I’d actually rather live with dysphoria forever and simply be dissociated and self-hating the whole time. Not because I don’t think I’d be a “real woman”, but because if I can’t for the most part look like a cis woman, I’m STILL going to have the dysphoria, but then I’m also going to have to deal with people telling me I’m an abomination - it’d only make things worse because it would just add to the existing pain.

    Then again there is basically no way for HRT to make me look worse, and I already look so fem that if I was actually trying I could probably already pass.


  • I find Linux to be MUCH easier to use. Granted, this is unusual, especially for an i3wm user, but hear me out: Although Linux has a very steep learning curve and using it seems very hard at first, this difficulty is short-lived. Getting anywhere is significantly faster and requires fewer steps, and the “simplicity” of windows quickly turns into complexity when you actually want to multitask and keep having to resize and click through dozens of windows.

    Of course, I also really like the freedom of actually owning my system, and that of tinkering with all the software on it when I am annoyed at something not being how I’d like. Privacy is a nice bonus, but honestly the lesser concern since I already have none anyway by owning a phone and being too lazy to degoogle it.









  • TudbuT@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoich_iel@feddit.deich_iel
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    1 year ago

    Dieser regulärer Ausdruck ist inkorrekt. Er trifft nicht auf “Kollegen” zu, aber dafür auf Kollegeinnen, was meines Wissens nach nicht korrekt ist (korrigiert mich gerne).

    Der korrekte reguläre Ausdruck wäre entweder für alle Endungen folgendes: /^(Sehr geehrte|Liebe)( Kolleg[a-zäöü\*]+|s Kollegium)$/gim

    Oder die Sternchenvariante: /^(Sehr geehrte|Liebe)( Kolleg(en|innen|\*innen)|s Kollegium)$/gim

    Der trifft zu auf:

    • Sehr geehrte Kolleg*innen
    • Sehr geehrte Kollegen
    • Sehr geehrte Kolleginnen
    • Sehr geehrtes Kollegium und das gleiche mit “Liebe” statt “Sehr geehrte”.