Sort of, i take care of the routine home tasks while my wife takes care of the organization or talking tasks.

Though as I’ve understood, that’s how relationships are supposed to function, two people coming together to deal with life and supporting each others weak sides.

Neither and both at the same time.

For me the future or past doesn’t exist. So i have to overlay higher thinking to it, because obviously time exists and needs to be taken into consideration.

I basically try to create repeated patterns or routine that in theory should yeald best results in long term, even though long term isn’t something realistic for me. Basically extreme version of delayed gratification, but never getting to the gratification part.

As messed up as it is, kids have been a rather helpful for that. They’re living and walking reminder that i need to consider the future and thanks to that every decision has their best interest in mind.

Otherwise, I’d be dead because, because neither the past or the future exist and the following the random impulses of this exact moment would be lethal.

Yeah fair, but as the other person said. Maybe I’ve just done enough ASD and ADHD tests that im subconsciously already giving the answers that lead to the diagnosis.

In addition psychologist was seeing just a glimpse, ~60 minutes, of my life every 2 weeks. Yeah sure over the course of half a hear, but that’s clearly not enough to form a coherent picture of a person. I can’t even remember what we talked about last time(possible SDAM), neither am i the only person they were seeing so it’s possible they can mix up people as well.

And it’s not like they actually saw “real” me, which doesn’t even really exist. All they saw was just an amalgamation of coping methods and behavioral habts developed and fine tuned over the course of 2+ decades necessary for whatever phase of life I’m currently in.

And it’s not like i know what’s going on inside either (possible alexithymia) i’m just a biological machine responding to external sensory signals to the best of my ability and always limited knowledge.

So they could have subconsciously gaslight/press certain buttons for me to give an appearance of ASD.

So you see, it’s not like it that certain with current methods.

A better method would be needed, a one i cant effect in any way.
Even bloodwork would probably be lacking as that can be effected to a degree by me. Maybe brain scan, but maybe it’s possible to effect which neurons fire by thinking about certain things. So probably a DNA test is necessary to know for certain.

I am diagnosed by a professional, but maybe i was faking it or masking.

Until theres a certain 100% way to know with analysis that cannot be affected by me aka bloodwork or a brain scan. The diagnosis will always be up for a debate and just an educated guess.

I can handle it if needed, but will always gravitate towards pretty much ht same meals every day and there are people who say i have eating disorder or disordered eating.

Though it’s highly beneficial so i don’t see any issues with it.

Love it, I’m not sure I’ve ever actually wanted to be or share my time with anyone. Ofcourse i can do it, but I’d prefer ti be alone.

Past, present and future. That’s the best i can do, but i have memory issue as well.

Past is just everything that has happened in the past in one big pile. For some things I can figure out a rough timeframe when it happened, but thats usually playing detective not act remembering whennit exactly happened.

Present is it, ±few hours or a day.

Future, maybe a week into the future, but thats about it. Far future doesn’t exist, it’s just made up.

Isn’t that supposed to be the thought process for basically every IRL interaction?

I just gotta take the word of the professional who diagnosed it.

Air purifier can help to reduce the amount of dust in the air and dusting should be done with a damp cleaning cloth to avoid the dust ending up in the air. Though it means the cloth must be rinsed after every wipe.

Dusting, mostly because every single free surface is filled with clutter. So simple dusting becomes a full blown spring cleaning. In addition the clutter is generally not left by me and cleaning it up irritates me too much.

I’m not sure. Mostly because I’ve never reached to a stage where i actually crave being around other people and in day to day activities. I have to be around other people, so recovering is kinda irrelevant.

More than i can have.

Autopilot, habit and relentless shame/self abuse/beating myself up.

It’s not full proof, but it does prevent or at least slow down the overall decline. I can handle cooking, eating, sleeping, laundry, grocery shopping, dishes, pets if needed, basic self hygiene and reminding it to others and maybe something else as well which i might be forgetting at the moment.

Clutter and subsequent dusting are the biggest pain points, but in my defense i am managing up to 3 ADHDs(2 diagnosed, 1 suspected). Probably maintenance sex as well.

Though these are the ones that constantly reminde me that I’m not enough and need to do better. Need to try harder.

Absolutely every single time, for emails as well, but less so.

Lately there was a really nice upgrade to my home countries medical system. I no longer have to call to get a prescription or actually open a sick leave. I can do it all through a webpage.

Administrative stuff regarding communicating with kids school or apartment buildings HOA or bank or internet service provider.

It’s one of those things that pisses me off way too easily. Luckily i can offload that aspect to my wife.

The actual proper eye contact.

No need to sum up my childhood.

I even planned on dying at 18. Just turns out that all the drug prevention lectures were wrong and no one just hands you drugs. This shit is expensive.

Well yeah, that’s because i am processing, recalculating plans, loading new behavioral profiles. Sry, that can take a minute.

Probably social and internal/emotional world.

Though social not as many would interpet it that hard to get along or form relationships, that part can be easily “faked”/managed. Social side from personal internal perspective which is connected or effected by the emotional difficulties.

For me the internal side of relationships might as not exist. All of the emotions or drives that most people consider to be the main reasons for relationships, pretty much don’t exist for me. Like the “connection” or “love” or “companionship”, “missing someone”, “wanting to be with someone”, etc are just theoretical concepts in google/textbook for me.

Pretty much like im completely missing one of the most fundamental things that makes us human.