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  • Full disclosure, I have only skimmed the source article because I just woke up and am not quite with it, but your comment brought to mind two real-world situations that I’m currently trying to navigate.

    In my regular working life, I recently hired an assistant. The person we hired seemed like a great fit. They had all the requisite knowledge and skills represented in their resume and work history, with examples of actual work product to show for their efforts. Sadly, I’ve come to realize that all of their work and the terminology they threw around in their interview was from AI. When asked to use tools and systems that they cannot just dump into an AI system - you know, things that require actual intelligence and effort to wield - they flounder, plod along, and honestly, have a lower quality of work than most amateurs I interact with.
    It’s not just that they don’t seem to know the material, it’s that they don’t seem to be capable of learning it, either.

    In my extracurricular working life (my freelance work, side hustle, or what-have-you), I work with an educational institution to create educational materials for students. Very template-driven, and with some strict editorial and stylistic confines. Key amongst them is accessibility.
    Before I get my hands on the files, they go through a robust editorial process where they are placed in an organizational template that mirrors the layout file. Lately I’ve been receiving files that look like the template, but are just all the ‘Normal’ style in Word, with overrides applied. Which is to say that someone has been using AI to style the document, and the AI has not been applying headings, or other elements that define document structure - a key component of accessibility. We’re having lengthy discussions about this - both practical, and philosophical. On the philosophical side, we’re struggling with the decoherence of information. And I think that also factors into cognitive surrender - a term I very much like.

    (Thank you coming to my TED talk.)









  • Monument@piefed.worldtoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•Be better
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    18 days ago

    Thank you. I really appreciated your comment, and I agree with you.
    I’m in much the same boat. Perhaps not so practiced in wielding the tools or so ingrained in reaching for them, but… trying. It’s reassuring to see and hear from folks who share their stories.

    Currently in the beginning phases of EMDR therapy, and trying to get to that point where the harms of the past hold less power. The outward manifestation toward others tends to be fairly pro-social, but I’m still struggling with the inner thoughts a lot. Hoping with effort and practice that changes.


  • Monument@piefed.worldtoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•Be better
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    18 days ago

    I’m glad my intent is coming across, even though I wasn’t very clear with it. I didn’t explicitly say that it’s not acceptable to harm others if you’ve been harmed: it’s not, and I aspire to not do damage to others, even as I sometimes poorly navigate my way through life.
    I felt compelled to jump in to give a more human face to how challenging it can be to get from one point to another.

    I’m in a very similar situation. I’ve struggled for a long time to find a workable therapist. Fragile trust, ADHD, and CPTSD. I’ve done some CBT work, and found a therapist I really trust. I’m now in the beginning phases of EMDR.


  • Monument@piefed.worldtoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world•Be better
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    If you read only the black text, the sign is telling people it’s perfectly fine to be victims of their circumstances.

    Jokes aside, I reluctantly agree with the sentiment that one or two commenters have expressed that it’s awful privileged to assume it’s within the capacity of those who endured childhood trauma to just “be better”.
    At every moment of every day, I carry a wound with me that tells me I’m not good enough, that I’m both physically and mentally in danger, and that everyone and everything I trust will turn on me at a moment’s notice.
    It’s a bit like handling a curve on a bike or car. On good days I feel like gentle tug of inertia trying to pull me from the path I’m steering toward. In this metaphor, the curves are the little challenges that are thrown at you socially. I see the edge of the mental road and all the darkness that lies beyond it, but I can handle it with grace and move in the direction I’d like. On bad days - most days, honestly - it’s not so gentle of a pull. I’m sliding right into panic and fear because of the trauma that was built into me. It takes a considerable effort and a lot of energy to not be antisocial, to not indulge in things that protect my wounds.

    It sucks. And it’s not because I’m not being better, it’s because my starting point is farther back and with fewer resources.

    (And time, apparently, as I’m rushing to finish this comment - apologies if that rush comes through with incomplete thoughts.)