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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • It sounds like you are in a good place, and are satisfied. For what it’s worth, IMO, just stay happy. If that means staying where you are, you don’t gotta impress nobody but yourself. So don’t worry about all the other noise. Always keep one eye on the prize, like in today’s professional world, you always have to be prepared for the rug to be pulled up from under you with a layoff or if the company hires a new boss for you and they are a zeeb, but once you got that concern appropriately hedged, always put professional well being above everything else.

    I left my last job to make double what the previous one paid, and my job is a nightmare job. Each successive job pays me more, makes me more miserable, the people are always worse and more money just means more problems. Money ain’t everything, and I mean it. Make enough to survive, live your happy idea of a perfect lifestyle, save for rainy days and retirement, and the rest is just noise.




  • It’s actually the mods that did it for me. If you don’t have this really weird super specific but vague world view, and you can’t follow 143 different rules (some not specified), then they start censoring you and temp banning your comments and contributions. The mods on my community sub actually permabanned me when I questioned them on it, instead of discussing it. After that I was like this is infuriating, and I don’t really want to participate here. Problem is, they mod anything related to said topic, like city, province, country, most political parties, quite a few special interest topics, etc. Its super weird behaviour.





  • Unfortunately that same community is about 460 people on Lemmy. There’s been three attempts thus far, the main 460 person community seems to be the one that’s sticking. At the beginning a couple of the regulars posted on the communities reddit sub, and were instantly threatened with permabans, and any mention of Lemmy on their sub apparently gets deleted and results in bans. I couldn’t make this shit up, it’s pretty unhealthy. But there is tons of local content on the reddit sub. We were an affected family that were involved in a local crisis last fall for example, and it was really useful for that as well, to connect with other local affected people in a way that couldn’t be directly tied back to us by any adverse parties, so we could voice frustrations and support each other. Thankfully I have an alt account that is unbanned, so I could use it for that. But it’s still really irritating, I’m a grown adult, but it still just bums me out that people can act like that, I dunno.







  • I’ve been using reddit a bit the past couple weeks, it’s getting pretty dry in the fediverse, especially for local content. I got permabanned from our local Reddit communities thread over literally pretty much nothing about a year and a half ago, basically questioning a power mods opinion on something, and then after getting temp banned, asked what the heck like if you aren’t agreeing with me just respond with something, and then I got permabanned.

    Anyways I wrote them a kind note today asking to be unbanned, as it is a pretty big sub (343k users for a city of 1.5M), and a good source of information. Told them like look, I’m pretty boring and I can behave, like could you prevent me from having to create a new alt account and let’s let bygones be bygones?

    The response I got was really condescending, they banned me from mod mail, and basically it was just a really weird response. All they had to say was no, thanks, and I would have moved on with my day. I think some of the mods are suffering from some pretty serious mental health issues these days, if not a god complex in the slightest. Reddit is a really really unhealthy place, and thankfully those people reminded me of that. I quickly deleted the app from my phone, and I think I’m done for good this time. The fediverse may be drying up a bit, but at least most of the people on it can behave like adults.