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Cake day: August 25th, 2025

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  • Just an FYI for others: you can have sleep apnea even if you don’t snore; in the same vein, if you snore,it doesn’t mean you have sleep apnea. For instance, my partner started snoring once he became overweight. He did a sleep study, which confirmed no sleep apnea.

    But if you suspect sleep apnea, get a sleep study asap. It can cause various health issues such as diabetes, heart issues, high blood pressure, etc.



  • People need/want/are used to active sync. For that one either needs a true self-hosted solution and/or a service that requires opening port(s) on the firewall/router, which most people either have no idea how to do or can’t due to ISP lockdown. Self-hosting can very quickly turn into a 2nd job and not everyone wants that. Or they have no required techical knowledge and no desire or time to learn. Plus, you still have to set up proper backups, even if the service is just running on your desktop. Unless, of course, you’re fine with a single point of failure.

    On the topic of mail hosting, as someone who works in IT and self-hosts a whole stack of things: I do not ever want to self-host my email. Personally, I was considering just getting another domain for email and switching backend services as needed, but I liked the package Proton offered, so I chose that instead. I might need to rethink that domain option, but at this rate, soon no backend service will be safe from fascists and/or AI.





  • I always bring up this story when talking about (bad) teachers. Once on my way back from school on public transit, I saw a teacher grading essays. They give this one essey an A, then close the notebook, check the name, open the notebook again, cross out A and write a B. Obviously I don’t know the backstory, but I was still looking at it in disbelief. I’d definitely been graded lower based on how the teacher liked me. Even on things that should be objective, like science subjects.


  • From my experience most teachers shouldn’t be teaching. Some downright hate kids. I had one who admitted she didn’t manage to get into medicine, so teaching biology was the second best. She definitely shouldn’t have gone into teaching.

    My elementary school literature teacher loved my creative writing and always left a note on my assignments, encouraging me to continue. Then in high school my literature teacher consistently gave me lower grades because she didn’t like my wiriting. Completely killed it for me. To be honest, I don’t know how she could even be a literature teacher, because the creative writing she loved from other students my friends and I agreed was unimaginative garbage.

    In the 12 years of mandatory education, I can count on one hand the good teachers who made me interested in the subject. And I’ve had well over 24 teachers in a wide range of subjects.






  • I wish the people at my company were like your mother. Instead, they freak out about the smallest of changes in the UI of the same application. God forbid they have to move to another application entirely. Had a user freak out their application wasn’t licensed and they couldn’t use all functions anymore. Turns out they just managed to somehow hide the toolbar with all the options… These are people anywhere from 20 to 60 years old, btw.



  • I basically don’t have any friends of my own anymore. The ones from high school I was never really close enough with to hang out outside school. We were just too different. Almost a decade and a half later and we see each other maybe once a year and don’t talk outside of that.

    College was supposed to be a place to meet new people, and I did meet a few, one of which is my current partner. But that also didn’t last past college years, really.

    I’m now in a different country, don’t really speak the language well enough and don’t really have energy or time to find new people. Plus, my introversion, social anxiety and health are only making it harder. My partner occasionally comments on me having no friends of my own, but then I look at his friend circle and want to roll my eyes. Most of his friends are from high school years, and he sees them maybe once or twice a year. There are a few he met through work, but it’s easier for him because the field we work in is male-dominated. So for him it’s okay, for me it sucks to be the only woman. But he doesn’t hang out with any of these people on regular basis. Realistically, most people he knows are acquaintances.

    I think about this whole situation frequently and it makes me depressed and bitter. I feel like even if I find new friends, I’ll never be the friend, you know? They’ll always have other people they’ve been friends with for longer and I will be either not as important or discarded later. It’s been this way my whole life. Always easily forgotten and replaced.


  • New Outlook is such a pieceof shit.

    Want to view mail headers to check if the mail is legit? Though tits, bro, no can do. Either save the mail as .eml and open it in a notes app or switch back to Outlook Classic.

    Want to run a rule manually, but have notifications for it turned on? Lmao, are you stupid? You can’t do that. This particular bug has been reported over a year ago and they still haven’t fixed it.

    I fucking hate working with this piece of shit and other Micro$lop products.