I have a particular limitation when it comes socially. I perform fantastically in person, but I have absolutely no social sense when it comes online. My best opportunities are a board game night meetup and some chance meetups at an arcade nearby on the weekends. I am neither old, Christian, or a drinker, hence the limited interests in my area. I still feel socially stunted without a real close friendship, but I can withstand that for the weeks in between seeing my sweetheart.
Now, assuming they move in soon, I assume I should find at least some friends in earnest? I know we both can get emotionally vulnerable so we ought to have as many support sources as possible. He is my best friend, but I need more eggs and more baskets. I have yet to have other friends… ever, but I’m damn trying with my gaming groups.
This is so frickin’ relatable.
I recently moved cross-country, leaving my beloved partners behind; and while I’m so much happier in my new location … I’m struggling to make new friends? Feels like a “30s problem,” because I used to have a vibrant, online scene of rich friendships … but now it’s just me, my dog, work, and a bunch of single-player videogames. )=
I spend most of my weeks looking forward to the next trip to/from my partners, and live as a completely antisocial shut-in, the rest of the time … which sucks, because I used to think of myself as something of a social butterfly! 😮💨
anyway idk hit me up if you wanna play multiplayer, complicated video games — factorio/satisfactory, complex systemic RPGs, literally anything that 1. takes more than a week or two to play and 2. isn’t single player? 🫠
Why are you living in a place where if you are not old, Christian or a drinker you don’t get to have a normal life?
Perhaps this is a dumb question, but what are the critical missing pieces with respect to in-person communication and care? There might be some creative ways to supplement digitally?
It seems clear that the ideal is connecting with someone in-person who you really vibe with. Is the in-person aspect the most important for the friendship that you’re seeking?
