I want to affirm my bisexuality in small ways from the closet. How can I of this?

Unrelated but soon I have Bible study :(

  • Lupec@lemmy.lpcha.im
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    1 year ago

    Some would say all you need is to cuff your jeans and appreciate lemon bars! Jokes aside, I always took the prevalence of memes like that by and for bi people as a self aware dig at the fact we don’t really have much of an established culture just yet and it’s kind of an ongoing thing. That’s been my interpretation at least, I’m certainly no authority.
    At any rate, hang in there and I hope you manage to find your way out of the closet and into a situation you’re comfortable with soon if that’s your wish :)

  • Dee@beehaw.org
    8·
    1 year ago

    Meme wise? Garlic bread, frogs, and sitting in chairs the wrong way.

    Real world culture? Maybe watching some David Bowie documentaries, he might be the most famous bisexual that I know of. But he’s also not the definition of what bisexual is. It’s more of a spectrum in and of itself, as it manifests differently for each individual. Like for me, I’m bisexual but in a monogamous relationship which would not work for other bisexuals and that’s okay. Explore yourself to find what bisexuality means to you.

    Real talk, meditation helped me discover myself and what my gender/sexuality meant to me. Just being with myself, my inner thoughts, and listening. I know that meditation doesn’t necessarily work for everyone though, so you may need to find another way to explore yourself. But that’s what worked for me so just sharing my method.

    I wish you luck in your journey of self discovery, happy to help where I can even if our journeys aren’t identical 😊

    • Zitronenschnitte@feddit.deEnglish
      5·
      1 year ago

      Meme wise? Garlic bread, frogs, and sitting in chairs the wrong way.

      I thought garlic bread is for the asexuals and we have lemon bars.

      But yeah, I feel like most bi culture is memes: sitting in chairs as mentioned, cuffed jeans, finger guns, the bisexual bob and many many more. But as it is with memes, they also change depending on the specific community. But I feel like we are pretty good with memes :D

      But on a more serious note: Bisexuality has a long history. I think it’s really interesting and I really enjoy diving in. Also being happy about every good representation, but that’s queer culture in general I imagine.

      • Dee@beehaw.orgEnglish
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        1 year ago

        I thought garlic bread is for the asexuals and we have lemon bars.

        Idk I’ve heard garlic bread used in a lot of communities from trans, asexual, to pan and bi. I don’t think I’ve ever heard/seen the lemon bar memes though. 🤷

        Bisexuality has a long history. I think it’s really interesting and I really enjoy diving in.

        You’re right and I probably should’ve gone into a longer list of celebrities to look into for different perspectives on bisexuality than just David Bowie. He’s just the first pop culture reference that personally comes to my mind. It goes all the way through history though. Ancient Greece, Rome, Japan, and China all have records talking about the practice of bisexuality in that society (even if they called it by another name). Then in more recent memory there’s Bill Beasley, of course, Alan Rockway, and many more names that you can find digging deeper into bisexuality’s more modern history… I’m on mobile so linking directly is kind of a pain 😅

        • Zitronenschnitte@feddit.deEnglish
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          1 year ago

          Garlic bread is awesome. So I understand that it’s so popular. And the lemon bar meme originates from reddit.

          And yes, the list can get pretty long. There is so much to learn and so many awesome bisexuals in past and present. I mean…we have Julie D’Aubigny, our Sword-Fighting 17th-Century Opera Star bicon :D And to anyone interested in bisexuality or bisexual people through out the history, I can recommend the podcast Life Of Bi.

    • CandidCamel@beehaw.org
      3·
      1 year ago

      Loved the first article, as a relatively recently out bi man, it’s always nice when I read something else that makes me feel seen, y’know?

  • Evergreen5970@beehaw.org
    3·
    1 year ago

    Surprised nobody posted about wearing bi flag colors yet.

    Not about bi culture but some Christian denominations are very affirming. And some individual churches within traditionally-homophobic denominations are breaking with that. I imagine it would be fun to think of their takes and refutations of “homosexuality is sin” arguments when you’re faced with homophobia from your own church, regardless of whether you’re religious or not. Good keywords to Google to get this kind of thing if you’re interested would be “open and affirming.”

    https://www.wijngaardsinstitute.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/christian_same_sex_relationships__interim_report.pdf pro-LGBTQ+, refutations of common points against them. Coming from a center for Catholic research.

  • PostmodernPythia@beehaw.org
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    1 year ago

    Memes and online culture count. Just like writing counted as culture when that tech emerged. There is an online bi culture, ime. It’s laid-back, self-aware, and flexible. And it sits in chairs like Riker from Star Trek: TNG.

    But “affirming your bisexuality” is different for everyone. Due to gender norms, women wearing bi pride flag colors are less likely to be assumed to be queer, as misogyny means “feminine colors” like pink/purple on women fly under the radar, so if your gender presentation is female, that might be one way to express yourself. But if you’re in the closet and affirming your sexuality to yourself, what I would think would matter would be art and community. Join some bi groups online anonymously if it’s safe for you to do so. Particularly bi + a shared interest groups. And take in some media that treats bisexuality as “normal” if that’s safe. Here’s a good place to start: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Media_portrayals_of_bisexuality

    Never forget that you are wonderful and worthy exactly as you are.