I have a couple times. The last time was a couple years ago with someone I met online who I was getting to know but didn’t like after the first date. They asked if I felt like watching some movie and I didn’t respond and they didn’t follow up. Tbh, I probably would’ve answered if they had sent a second text. I guess I avoided telling them the truth but it stuck with me like a pebble in my shoe and I feel bad thinking about it.
I’m ADHD. I think I may have ghosted people. I wouldn’t know.
If you’re not a huge part of my life, and you don’t chase me a couple times, I may just forget you exist.
Yep AuDHD here with RSD. I just always assume people aren’t interested in connecting with me. Even though it’s not always true. But if someone doesn’t make any effort to keep in touch, I assume they aren’t interested and they are no longer at the front of my mind. Keeps me from being hurt when it happens for real. But it’s not intentional. I’ve just been rejected too many times due to my undiagnosed AuDHD.
Same, but for me a lot of it has to do with ADHD-induced anxiety. It’s not always that I forgot you exist; but simply that it’s been too long now, so it would be weird and awkward if I tried to re-enter your life again. So it’s best to just stay away.
I’ve ghosted every job I’ve held (except one) for the same reason: can’t deal with the anxiety of putting in my two weeks, so when I’m done with a job I just silently walk away without saying a thing to anyone and never come back.
The awkward time is very real. Is it strange if I say hello? Is it strange if I don’t? If I do nothing, then it’s future me’s problem.