Looks like my account was banned/restricted for the above interaction, have already sent the mods on world an email asking if they’d be willing to reverse that. Had an episode of psychosis a few months ago where I did say some offensive stuff, (understandably) got a 3 month ban on .lol for that, so could see my account having been flagged.

I uh, I don’t think it’s reasonable to expect people to check others profiles to ensure we are correctly pronouning them… when making a throw away comment that is less than 10 words involving a ludicrously common saying. Jerboa does not show users pronouns. I could switch to an app that DOES show the pronouns, do any Lemmings have a recommendation for a free Lemmy mobile app that has that feature?

Edit: Edie chimed in, Jerboa does show pronouns. It’s a formatting issue with mobile vs browser (She has them on individual text lines so they don’t appear on mobile).

Was just going to respond to the user in question to let them know I wasn’t purposefully trying to offend that individual, to discover I’m not able to post or make comments on world now, so figured I’d see what y’alls opinion on the matter is.

  • Boomkop3@reddthat.com
    15·
    11 days ago

    Maybe a stupid question, but how do I tell from the flag whether that’s a trans fem or trans masc?

    • infuziSporg [e/em/eir]@hexbear.netEnglish
      133·
      11 days ago

      If it’s an ambiguous name you might have to check. Fortunately, Edie is an unambiguously female name, and the clear majority of binary trans people pick clearly gender-coded names.

    • SparrowHawk@feddit.itEnglish
      102·
      11 days ago

      There are no stupid questions, but the one you should ask yourself is “should i try to use gender neutrale language and/or check their bio or should i not care and risk hurting someone?”

      If you care about not hurting people, you’ll find the right answer, and if an honest mistake happens, own it and people will generally be understandable. It’s really not that different from common courtesy, it just isn’t the norm yet

      • Boomkop3@reddthat.com
        3·
        11 days ago

        I personally prefer to stick to gender neutral language in general. Maybe it’s my autism, but a lot of the time profiles don’t help me much unless there are preferences are listed explicitly

        • SparrowHawk@feddit.itEnglish
          3·
          11 days ago

          I too stick to gender neutral language in general, it just feels better to do so when i don’t know who is “in front” of me. When profiles don’t help I think it’s best to not assume anything and just speak neutrally

    • Hjalmar@feddit.nu
      72·
      11 days ago

      You don’t but you’ll know that it probably matter that you get it right

    • Lime Buzz@beehaw.orgEnglish
      11·
      11 days ago

      You can’t. Best to use they and other neutral ways of referring to some{one/many} unless you check or are corrected.