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  • Annoyed_🦀 @monyet.cc
    21·
    3 months ago

    I mean…sure, you can pick and choose all you want, but you yourself gotta match your preference, i.e. you yourself must be lean and in shape.

  • warbond@lemmy.world
    182·
    3 months ago

    Yes. It sounds like you’re talking about the features you’re on the lookout for in a used car, which comes off as creepy.

      • warbond@lemmy.world
        3·
        3 months ago

        You asked, I answered. Do you want to know what people think about your standards or not? I agree with your friends. I’m not equipped to help you demystify your feelings towards women, but I think a good place to start is by examining why these things are such deal breakers to you. Is the presence of these qualities the only things you find attractive, regardless of any other factors? Because that’s not how people typically view attractiveness.

          • warbond@lemmy.world
            2·
            3 months ago

            Anime and video games to the exclusion of everything else? Are those the only two options? What about reading and movies? Or knitting and podcasts?

            If all you do is look for reasons not to date somebody, then that is all you’re going to see.

              • warbond@lemmy.world
                2·
                3 months ago

                That standard is fine. Leave the rest out and do things you like in social settings and bip bop boop, you’ve found somebody who’d rather be with you than at a club, even if all you do is watch anime, or she sits on the couch and watches you play video games. Be open to your ideal looking different from what you expected.

  • iiGxC@slrpnk.net
    6·
    3 months ago

    If you really are a tren goblin you should stop taking unhealthy recreational drugs before you worry about drugs other people use. Like another user said, don’t expect anything you can’t bring to the table for them.

    Also, the health of recreational drug use varies wildly. Having one drink of alcohol each night is different to getting very drunk every friday and saturday is different to going on cocaine benders every weekend is different to smoking a bit of weed after work is different to tripping on shrooms once or twice a month. Some of those have huge negative side effects on health, some have zero impact.

      • iiGxC@slrpnk.net
        1·
        3 months ago

        I agree even a little bit of alcohol is unhealthy, but that’s backed up by the science on the topic. Classic psychedelics (shrooms, lsd, mescaline) are extremely safe tho, less impactful to health than an unhealthy meal. If health is that important to you, at least have a consistent and evidence based perspective on it.

        Complimenting appearance everyday is a misguided thing to promise, it’s better to compliment things people have more direct control over, and it’s better to understand the person and their love languages and show love in a way that they’ll appreciate the most. Never looking at another woman sexually is an impossible standard which you’re better off not promising.

  • majestictechie@lemmy.fosshost.comEnglish
    5·
    3 months ago

    Yes. For me it comes down to two things:

    1. Do I get on and have fun with this person?
    2. Am I attracted to them?

    I don’t think you need to be so specific with your requirements. If they don’t like Anime, then that shouldn’t be a deal breaker. As long as they’re not forcing you to stop watching /liking those things, you can like different things.

      • majestictechie@lemmy.fosshost.comEnglish
        3·
        3 months ago

        Wow ok. So even if you met an amazing woman you got on with, if she didn’t have play video games or watch Anime you’d reject them? Seriously, you need to think of your priorities before you enter any serious relationship because it doesn’t sound like many of them are gonna end well

  • AFK BRB Chocolate@lemmy.worldEnglish
    3·
    3 months ago

    At the risk of making a serious reply in a shitpost thread…

    Who you’re attracted to and what you’re looking for is subjective. No one else gets a say in what that is.

    However, there are repercussions. The more rare what you’re looking for is, the harder it is to find. The more broadly desired what you’re looking for is, the more you’re competing with other people.

    So sure, go looking for what you want, but be aware that you might be looking a long time, and they might not be interested in you.