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    “Wow Hexbears are so mean because they have pronouns in their names”

    proceeds to use language that even Fox News hosts would balk at

    • HornyOnMain [she/her]@hexbear.netOP
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      Remembering when I saw a blahaj user complaining about feeling so on edge when around hexbears because she was afraid she’d say something racist or ableist by accident and get dogpiled lmao

      i-think-that making people feel uncomfortable and scared to be openly racist is good actually

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        It’s not even that bad. I called out someone this morning for misgendering my partner and they went whoops my bad not sure why I even did that. And everything is fine now. Make a mistake, be called out on it, admit your mistake, learn from it, and everything is totally fine. Shit happens nobody is perfect and nobody is expecting perfection.

        Where the real dog piling happens is when someone makes a mistake, is called out on it, and doesn’t have the humility to admit they made a mistake. The double and triple down occurs and that’s when the dunking truly begins.

        So basically anyone complaining that Hexbears make them scared are just racist/sexist/ablest/you name it ist and refuses to try not to be those things. We’re totally chill if folks want to try to be better people and are willing to actually try

        • JuneFall [none/use name]@hexbear.net
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          Having grown up in a white household that was becoming middle class with two parents who were pretty poor the academic success and thus negation of identity was quite important. Faults were not addressed, but ignored with neighbors but also within the family, status was to be kept up. So call outs were seen not as only attack against personhood but self itself.

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            Oh yeah, this is how my family is too. They’ll say some asinine shit and the second you call them out about it they shut it down because “well you’re being POLITICAL and we just won’t agree on that so we shouldn’t talk about it.” It’s ridiculous and one of the reasons I don’t talk to my family much anymore

            • DroneRights [it/its]@hexbear.net
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              Politics is when minorities demand rights, and the less rights they already have, the more political it is. And if it’s a minority I haven’t heard of, that’s trolling.

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          When your native language doesn’t have gendered pronouns and you’re afraid of misgendering by accident due to subconsciously defaulting to ”he” in English: meow-knit

      • Grimble [he/him,they/them]@hexbear.net
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        she was afraid she’d say something racist or ableist by accident

        Americans are such bumbling cartoon simpletons its unreal LMAO, like who else could have a problem so perfectly dumb. Imagine being like this and still demanding to feel comfortable everywhere you go.

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          If it’s the same person who said that stuff to me, she went on to say she genders all strangers he/him by default. On the instance full of trans women. And the admin defended her.

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                Oh god that’s awful, I had a chaser be really weird at me too and follow me from post to post calling me “m’lady” and had someone accuse me of being chaserphobic - was your chaser a teenage Vaush fan by any chance, because we might have got the same one

                Ngl before defederation I was really trying to push for the two instances staying together but now I’m increasingly souring on blahaj for their poor moderation

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                  No idea if they were a vaush fan. They were very firm in their belief that trans people shouldn’t be forced to engage in politics, and that’s why they harassed random trans people who don’t like Blahaj trying to get them to debate the politics of the issue.

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                    Oh god just from the sound of them I think I know who you mean, they might be the person who accused me of being chaserphobic after I politely told a chaser I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with anyone who talked about trans people so fetishisticly like they did