• teawrecks@sopuli.xyz
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    5 months ago

    When I was in highschool, it was normal for everyone in my mostly male friend group to greet each other with hugs. I remember my dad saying he found it weird. Didn’t change anything.

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      5 months ago

      Ha! Glad I wasn’t the only one. I fondly remember that about highschool too. My friends group was from all walks of life. Hugs every time!

      I got called back by a staff guy once. “You’ve been hugging like lotsa girls. Have you seen our PDA policy?”

      I was like “Bruh everybody hugs.”

      Guess we hadn’t learned to be proper grown-up, repressed, judgemental shell-dwellers yet.

      Society feels like a prison-zoo now: “Eyes down. Keep to yourself. Eye contact could start trouble.”

      And we’re statistically the lonliest adult generations in history.

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        5 months ago

        Yeah, I can’t help but feel like social media, the loss of third spaces, and a lack of affection (physical or otherwise) between friends and family plays a part in people being so lonely. This post has been really interesting, and has run a far larger gamut of responses than I thought I’d get.

        Everybody has physical contact between themselves and their dates/SOs. But I was really interested to hear about people’s physical connections outside of just dating. Male-male platonic affection seems exceedlingly rare, so I was interested in hearing what it’s like in people’s everyday lives. :)