UPDATE: The transphobe Ada has been defending says they misgender all trans women/NBs on Blahaj who are strangers - Blåhaj Lemmy
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Further information on the situation with the transphobia: Abigail has repeatedly misgendered me and defended her choice by saying she chooses to refer to all people of unknown gender as male. > Hey, Abigail here. I just want people to know the reason this person got banned is likely because of a deleted comment not included in that thread. OP called me ~~autistic ~~ mentally unwell for not liking politics. THAT kind of behavior is not acceptable on lemmy.blahaj.zone, so I reported the comment and let Ada handle it. Ada tried in good faith to reason with OP but it was clear they just wanted to fight. So yeah, they got banned. Ada’s a fantastic lady who’s been great at keeping the trolls at bay. > Edit: and the bit about me misgendering them is also wrong. Gender didn’t come into play until after I had left the conversation. English default on the internet is male for strangers. Source: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669] WRT the statement that I accused them of autism for not liking politics, further info is available here: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669] https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2320815 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2320815] https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2321026 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2321026]
  • kristina [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    35·
    1 year ago

    gotta remember that generally people tune out of trans spaces the longer theyve been on hrt. so a lot of trans communities are new transitioners and the long-transitioned and few ‘moms, dads, and vague parental figures’ that guide them to resources and pool the knowledge.

      • kristina [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
        26·
        1 year ago

        still young, id say 4-5ish years on is when most people begin to radicalize a lot. though most are some sort of socialist anyways, they just become more serious about it

        • Tastysnack [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
          20·
          1 year ago

          rosa-salute

          I think for me what I found difficult was that you could tell who was progressive/leftist/social justice advocate pre transition and who offers it lip service post transition when it benefits their specific personal needs but defends the status quo still and I found myself unable to tolerate the second group.

          As someone who would be categorised as the first group (I hope) I tried to educate and engage but after getting dogpilled by lib rage, ostracised for being a tankie, seeing the shittest takes time and time again and watching these people destroying groups that would benefit trans people irl I grew exhausted and left.

          I think I mentioned it in one of my first comments on here which is why after seeing that same energy in blahaj.zone i came here.

          That feeling of frustration and powerlessness even around your own peeps just feels so isolating.

          • kristina [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
            27·
            1 year ago

            yeah i remember one time where a girl came in and thanked me a lot, saying i changed her life by helping her with her meds and stuff and gave me a big hug. and then some time later she flew into a fit of rage and said she’d never come back to the lgbt center after learning i was a communist, and she never did. i was very bewildered at that. i did go out of the way and even got her an uber to her first HRT appointment and helped her schedule it, which is no big deal for me but i know its a big deal for a lot of people who are anxious to start HRT. she claims she was a socialist. sometimes wonder what shes up to 🤔 strange what propaganda can cook up in people’s heads.

              • kristina [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
                23·
                1 year ago

                it was a strange conversation. i kinda mentioned it offhand to someone (sometimes people say, wow youre so generous! when i offer to help them with something and i just shrug and say im a commie) and i guess they mentioned it to her. she then began asking me stuff about xinjiang very angrily and i just said that im not really here to get into debates with people, im just the trans resource lady and want to help out. then she stormed off as i said.

                • Tastysnack [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
                  18·
                  1 year ago

                  I used to get called Wolfie pre-transition because of the character from Citizen Smith 😑

                  I just quipped that I was too young to understand their boomer references.

                  Libs and their “comedy”. Jokes on them I’ve reclaimed it now meow-shining

                  We can only hope she realises that a Liberal system had her coming to a local community group for help in being her literal fucking self and that the “commie red fash tankie” lady was the person who helped her and paid for her to go to her appointment. Not the libs, not the soc dems but a based commie lady meow-hug

        • silent_water [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
          11·
          1 year ago

          lmao I radicalized the day I came out to myself. I was on multiple tabs of lsd so “I’m lying to myself about gender” and “I’m lying to myself about liberalism” were the same realization.