• Miaou@jlai.lu
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    5 months ago

    This domestic abuse thing sounds to me like a “pull up yourself by the bootstrap” situation kind of myth. Are there women who can stash thousands away to prepare to flee, but cannot somehow have a bank account? That sounds so unrealistic, it seems to me more of an excuse to tell abused people they are just “not trying hard enough”.

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      5 months ago

      Yes. This only makes me think you’ve not had much experience with DV victims. Which, if true, isn’t your fault.

      Control is one of the big parts of DV. Take away their ability to get away.

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      5 months ago

      Are there women who can stash thousands away to prepare to flee, but cannot somehow have a SECRET bank account?

      ^ fixed your question - an important word was missing. And now to answer it, in some countries it is impossible to open a bank account without your spouse knowing about it. If you are married, your spouse must cosign.