I am 100% confident it’s them because so many details lined up (team, size of family, compensation, role, location, job level) including them using a specific phrase of words after a few days I sent it in our work chat
Obviously, I can’t prove it’s them so HR would never take action. Not only that but this guy is one of those started coding when they were 10 years old so not only are they a higher level than me, they also perform way better than me so complaining to my manager or teammates would 100% also backfire as they would 100% prefer a very high performing misogynist and transphobe than a poor performing woke sjw (me)
It doesn’t sound like there’s anything you can do. Was there any indication that he was like this before you found the reddit account?
Well I didn’t assume anything because I’m not judgemental like that but tbh it’s not really surprising I found out they were an incel from their appearance, life outside work, coding abilities, willingness to chat, etc.
My recommendation would be to keep your interactions with this person professional and to a minimum. You can’t really avoid being around terrible people in life sometimes, so I’d find a way to live with it, unless of course they start being terrible and abusive at you. I mean, does it really affect you if this person is as bad as you say?