cross-posted from: https://programming.dev/post/14816537
Iām 43 years old but apparently I have a baby face, good hair for my age and everyone believes Iām in my mid 20s, even though I already have some gray hairs nobody seems to notice (so far).
I started the lie: first time I started my last job at a hospital immediately after my bachelor and told my new coworkers my real age (38 at the time) they started judging me: why are you not married, why donāt you have children, what have you done in the last 20 years.
The way these women asked was accusatory, like Iām a failure for being almost 40 and not having children or being single. At that moment I decided next time somebody at the workplace asks me for my age, to blatantly and shamelessly lie: Iām 25, leave me alone.
Since that bad experience Iāve worked at 2 other hospitals and my lie has always helped: patients and coworkers believe Iām 25 because as said I look like it, donāt pester me about children or marriage and while my current coworkers are gossips and need drama to live, they donāt push my buttons because I donāt give them any ammunition. Itās tolerable.
Note that I didnāt lie in my application and accounting and management at my workplace know very well my real age, but my coworkers and direct manager are oblivious to it: On my first day I just told them Iām 25 and they didnāt question it.
Now, I have the body of a 43 year old, meaning I donāt lift heavy patients like a 25 year old and sometimes I come home with back pain. I donāt know if Iād get better assignments if Iām sincere about my age (Iād like that, but is it realistic?). I just donāt want to get to 65 with a broken back. I donāt want drama either, just to work and go home.
I lie to protect myself.
If I need to change this, why and how?
Iām 39 and my teenage coworkers at McDonaldās were surprised that I wasnāt just 19 or 20. To be fair, though, I have to wear a hat and it covers most of my gray hair. And theyāre also teenagers.
Teenagers are absolute idiots. Their changing bodies seemingly take away energy from their brains. I got a dog last year and they grow into puberty after 9 months. We had been doing puppy training, which was going great, but after 9 months she suddenly seemed to have forgotten everything she learned and just did everything she wasnāt supposed to. Same thing goes for humans, but itās a longer timespan, so the transition is smoother.