My friend made me install Bumble. I want something that leftists will recognize but that won’t immediately scare off liberals (I can fix them)

Does anyone have any cool Lenin quotes for this purpose or something

  • Egon [they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    1 year ago

    Okay so you are not the first on hexbear to ask for this. There was another user with a similar query about a year ago. I dug thru my old account, but couldn’t find the thread, but if you search your own question, then it should probably turn up right quick - Maybe that’ll give you some good ideas too.

    Good dogwhistles have to be subtle enough that it’s not just “THE ONLY THING WRONG STALIN DID WAS STOPPING AT BERLIN” while not being so subtle or niche that you come off as a weirdo eccentric (unless you want that to be your vibe) like posting a Zizek quote or something. It also should still be something that relates to you as a person - just posting something that does not vibe with you apart from being a signifier is not optimal.
    My advice is to take a short and sweet quote unrelated to leftism by a lesser known revolutionary figure - Quoting something inspirational from Rosa Luxembourg is a good idea. Alternatively a left/left-adjacent artist/philosopher like Ursula K. Le Guin or the “we must imagine Sisyphus happy” by Camus are (I think) good examples of this. Also the fun-fact about women in east Germany having better sex.

    I’ve helped quite a few friends with having fun with dating apps. If you want some general advice, you can click the spoiler.

    Unasked-for general dating-app advice

    First off: It’s a market and a capitalist institution which immediately makes it toxic. It’s important to know what you want from the app, what it is capable of giving you and what the pit-falls are. Be careful of using it for validation or serotonin activation, because that is what it is designed for and it is not good. Personally I think Feeld and Hinge are the least toxic apps on the market, but you do still have to market yourself, which is not good. Treat it mentally like going to a bar looking for a hook-up or date, and it might mean less to you, which is good. Do not ever feel obligated to do anything.
    Do not my friend become addicted to matches, they will take hold of you, and you will resent their absence.

    With that outta the way let’s get to optimizing your profile:
    You’re gonna want 4-6 pictures of yourself.
    1st should be a profile of you where you’re smiling (to show you’re not an axe-wielding maniac).
    2nd should be a full-phrame photo of you (to show youre not an axe-wielding wielding murderer ashamed of their body).
    3rd should be of you with friends (to show you’re not an asocial axe-wielding maniac).
    4th should be you doing some physical or creative activity (to show rather than tell about something you enjoy, and also that you are either productive or stay physically fit).
    The 5th and 6th are sort of optional but they are a sexy picture and then a silly picture. You can have both or either or. Depending on your vibe you may want you profile (shoulders and up-photo) to also be slightly silly or sexy. Make sure you smile tho, or people will think you’re a murderer.

    Then the profile text: This is important, it is what will (in large part) determine the quality of your matches and what they write. If you write nothing then there is nothing for people to determine wether you have anything in common. This will mean more people match with you, which means you have to spend more time writing and sorting people away, this is not good for you.
    No text also makes it harder for people to write personalised openers, which means you’re just gonna get a lot of cheesy one-liners.

    Your text should focus on what you enjoy, rather than what you dislike. Optimally it is about a paragraph long and includes the following:
    Description of yourself “just a fun-loving doctor from Ohio looking for love in the big city” or the like.
    A short sentence about what you are looking for on the app (not knowing is fine!)
    Description of thing/activity you enjoy. Fun fact or cheesy joke (something that gives people an idea of your vibe/humor).
    And then something that gives people a light discussion to engage in (pineapple on pizza discourse).
    You can have an additional text that is a story or something you value or a joke or a question or something. You can dedicate that extra text to going into more detail as well.
    You can also add in a description of an ideal date or a nice Sunday morning or the like. You can also add a clearly ironic thing “I’m just looking for someone to share a bucket of booze with”. The important thing is that it is 1. Personal 2. Inviting and 3. Gives people something to work with.

    I hope these help!