Whether it be to do your job, get your schoolwork done, clean your house, work on your creative passion, etc.
Bonus points if you’re someone without reasonable self-control so saying something like “I can only have a cookie after I do this/while I do this” doesn’t work for you and you’re just going to eat the cookie and not do it.
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I try reframing whatever it is I need to do so that it’s not as intimidating/soul crushing/whatever. For me the way to make this actually work is to only reframe things in a way that is both true and nonjudgmental.
Original thought/feeling: my apartment looks like a wreck, I’m a shitty person for living like this, now I’m obligated to clean
Reframed thought: my apartment needs to be cleaned up, but that’s fixable and doesn’t mean anything about me as a person. I can use the time I spend cleaning to also listen to an audio book. Making my environment cleaner and more enjoyable will be a gift for my future self.
Force yourself to do it… for five minutes.
If you still don’t like doing it after five minutes, give yourself permission to stop.
This works very well for me. It certainly helped me get past the notion that I needed motivation before doing something.
I prefer to want to do a thing before doing it, but I don’t have to.
Quite honestly the biggest game changer for me was understanding that you don’t have to feel like doing something in order to do it.
Force yourself to do it for five minutes, and 99% of the time you get in the groove and realise “Oh, this actually isn’t so bad” and before you know it, you’re done.
Every day I exercise (walking) and every single time it goes like this:
- Don’t wanna do it
- Start doing it anyway
- It’s done
- Feel good that I did it
You build discipline so as not to rely on motivation, as motivation is unreliable.
Like, if you rely on motivation, depression will win. It’ll get ya. Sneak attack, pin you when you’re down. Or just heavy life events like losing a loved one, or a job. When shit hits hard, there is no motivation. None. Zero. Things can happen in life where purpose feels completely gone. You cannot rely on motivation, because if you end up here and motivation was your only path forward, you’re toast! Well not really, but the uphill battle is even steeper.
What are you trying to to be motivated to do? Play music? Every day, 30 minutes, no excuses.
Get into hiking shape? 1 small hike every weekend. Rain or shine.
Build the discipline. Form the habit. The motivation will come and go. Habits get broken. Discipline stays.
I mostly second this. I have a mantra “Embrace the uncomfortable”. Not in a “work yourself to death for some number” kind of way, but in a “go outside, even if its raining” kind of way. It helps me to appreciate small comforts afterwards and reduces the amount of energy needed to do stuff.
People think motivation comes before action, but it is actually the reverse. You have to decide (not be motivated) to act, and the motivation will follow.
I have this mantra that I say to myself. I think it’s from Tibetan monks, but I heard it on an NPR interview.
"May we be victorious over our fears.
May we be happy without hope.
May we be of benefit to all."
The fear here is my fear of doing the thing. The lack of hope is what I feel because I will not just fucking do the thing. The benefit to all is what happens when I actually do the thing.
I know it sounds super depressing, but it helps me… sometimes.
I actually kind of vibe with this. I don’t think its depressing, sounds uplifting to me.
you dont. you force yourself to do just 15 minutes of solid effort. chances are you’ll just keep going. the first step is the hardest. cookies dont work for me because like, I can just go get the cookie now if you get what I mean here
You don’t.
No really, you don’t, you just force yourself to do it because you know it’s got to be done. I know it sucks but it is what it is, sometimes we have to do shit we don’t want to, but once you start it’s usually not so bad as you thought it’d be and then it gets easier with time especially if you make it part of your routine.
Source: life experience.
I don’t have the motivation to do the whole thing.
That being said, I only need the motivation to start the task. Once started, I don’t need motivation to continue doing the on-going task.
Soo, you may not need as much motivation as you think you need. Just push yourself to start one small bit of the task , and voila , before you know it, the task is over.
Never had an issue with being motivated. Crippling anxiety issues really are one hell of a motivation. I just want that stressful thing off my proverbial plate.
I can say from that perspective. Start with the easy tasks first. Under 5 minutes? Go do it. Then the harder ones. It’s a lot better to see that you had 10 things on the to-do list and most are already done.
Put your phone in airplane mode. Don’t distract yourself. TV off too.
Get on the loop at any point. Often the best thing to do is just start doing it, 5 minutes in and you want to do more.
Change your perception of the task, instead of it being a ‘thing that you will be happy to have done’ look at it as a ‘thing that are happy doing’,
for example instead of ‘I will be happy to have learned to play the piano so I should force myself to practice’ think ‘I am happy while practicing the piano’ instead of ‘I have to do the dishes’ think ‘I am cleaning these dishes with perfection, and optimising their placement so that they will dry the quickest’
Basically, don’t do things for the end goal, do it for the action itself, live in the present, not in the future. There’s always enjoyment to get from any chore if you approach it from this mindset.
My partner look at me funny when I put my shirts to dry in ascending color order, and my socks all parrallel, but the truth is, I’m having fun doing it that way, the chore has become a meticulous game that I take pleasure from.
Ifind the Non Zero Days philosophy super helpful but it’s from the old site back when it was good.
I get really fuckin high and then become numb until I’m in the groove.
I feel like I should specify weed.
Same same but crack
I just think about how much worse I would feel later with this damn thing hanging over me. Alternately, I think back to how good I felt last time I actually got something done.
