I’ve seen it pop up in quite a few threads, sometimes in jest (or sort of in-jest), but I think it comes up enough to talk about seriously, both from an individual behaviour standpoint and a broader activism/socialism/whatever standpoint.
This is also coming from someone that sees themselves as very extroverted (but also autistic and socially anxious, so pretty poor at getting my social needs met), so maybe this whole idea is way off base.
There’s two narratives here for discussion in this thread:
- I struggle with pushing myself to be social, and I am afraid this makes me a poor activist. At some point or another advocating for socialism will rely on socialists to talk to non-socialists in spaces and circumstances that are not comfortable.
- Socialism, on some level, involves a society with more time and space to socialise. What will this look like for a severe introvert? Will there be room for a person to buy a plot of land in the hills and live separate from society forever? Will I have to go to Commissar DanceClass’s Dance Class?
And two sentiments that should be discussed with those narratives re: other people:
- Introvert, socially anxious, autistic etc. There are people they get along with and comfortable social situations, but for a variety of reasons need a break regularly
- “I just hate people”
This whole post was a thought I had when reading the second people-hater. My initial thought was that this was an internal pathologisation of people based on the society we live in. If the only people you encounter day to day are ladder climbing suburbanites whose main interests are competitively assessing lawn heights and promotions, you’re probably going to “hate people”. However, this may not be the case for all people who claim this of themselves. Maybe they hate other people on the road, people in queues for groceries etc. I just find it hard to believe that someone who genuinely hates all people would hop on to a forum (an entirely social activity) and spend any amount of time there. Nonetheless, it probably happens.
But, I figured that the topic had enough range and nuance to turn into its own thread instead of responding directly, and saw someone else post the introvert activism thing.
One of the things I thought of was the social battery and how it’s often expended on work and commuting. If your main social energy is spent at work/commuting, I feel like it’s very possible that one might come away with a dim view of any social activity (incl. organising) and your ability to participate in it, especially if you’d largely done it since school (another cutthroat highly hierarchical social setting).
(how is commuting social? You’re in a constant negotiation with other drivers to avoid bumping your 2 ton $20k machines into each other, with a wide variety of levels of aggression, empathy, engagement etc. It’s not words, but there is a communication there that can be very draining)
Oh look, a thread targeting me
I actually like people a lot, or else I wouldn’t be bitching here 24/7 about how badly it sucks and how difficult it is being social. I’m just amazingly bad at it, I have extreme difficulty getting along with even decent people. Finding decent people.
Is there a hexbear discord that I can lurk? All the queer spaces on discord are fucking unbearable. I need to be immersing myself in trarxism and tranarchy more.
That’s where I am too, I never quite vibed the misanthropic stereotype of introversion. I really enjoy hanging out with people, I’m just very ready for them to be gone at the end of the evening.
Low social battery :)
why?
Uh libs and stuff. You try to tell people that the backlash to walkable cities is chud shit and they get arsey. Also “apolitical queer spaces”.
No I am not very well adjusted.
oh, well fuck those libs
For real, I’m so sick to death of -ass queer people with 0 intersectionality and 0 ability to even spare a thought for anyone who’s nor a cis white assimilationist gay.
Grrr