• AlicePraxis [any]@hexbear.net
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    11 months ago

    not sure if you are sincerely asking but I’m gonna answer your question sincerely anyway

    CW porn, kink

    gooning is fetishising one’s own addiction to porn. masturbating for hours on end to achieve a hypnotic state of mind-numbing horniness. so basically edging but often with an added humiliation kink - it’s become a common theme in femdom clips and hypno porn

    why is it bad: addiction to porn and masturbation can get in the way of achieving one’s goals or having meaningful relationships with people in the real world. also there is a lot of overlap with other problematic porn genres such as fetishization of trans women and racial fetishization etc.

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      11 months ago

      addiction to porn

      Were the Mormons in Utah right to declare porn a public health crisis?

      EDIT: A link for you in case you wanted a look

      EDIT2: Sorry if this is coming off as aggressive. I am not trying to trap you or anything. I just like using this question as a gauge on where to work from when talking to people about this.

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        Not the OP but the “crisis” language is a bit alarmist for me. Porn addiction is one expression of an entire category of psychological addictions (that is, addictions that don’t have a chemical basis), and the way to combat it at a societal level is basically the same as combatting the rest of them - free therapy and counseling for all effected, improve people’s material conditions so that they have more resistance to addictive behaviors, destigmatize it so that people can talk about it more frankly and openly.

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          So its not about porn its the fact the person has an addictive personality? My issue with all this talk is trying to figure out who is anti-sex-worker and who is not.

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            Not an addictive personality either, no, though neurotypes and stuff can play into susceptibility. It’s more that we live in such an absurdly horrendous kind of hellworld that people reflexively turn to shit to numb the pain, and porn is one of those things. At least, that’s what I’ve gotten from what people have said

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        11 months ago

        no, Utah republicans are likely doing that because they want to ban porn, which I don’t support because that would ultimately hurt sex workers more than anyone. besides I don’t think pornography is inherently bad, even if a lot of it is bad and the industry in which most of it is produced is exploitative (but so is every other capitalist industry). banning porn would of course not eliminate it but drive it underground, where it would be unregulated and get mixed up with some truly reprehensible things.

        frankly when I talk about porn addiction it’s somewhat personal because I myself am addicted to porn. but I don’t hate it or want it banned because of that. like a lot of people who are susceptible to porn addiction I’m incredibly alienated and isolated, so I think the key here is to create a less atomized society.

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          My sister who is ex-mormon like me, thinks that porn kills families still and will sight studies that Mormons commissioned to say porn is bad for the brain in general. You are talking about addiction which is totally different to me. As always I tell people I am an autistic person that loves things in neat categorized boxes in my head. So when someone says porn addiction it just makes a list fly through my mind on if this person means the industry is bad, the addiction factor is bad, or the fact that people even do it is bad.

          Thanks for letting me know your thoughts on the topic. I really enjoy reading what people think about it and I hope one day you can find a way to beat your addiction. For me I am mainly addicted to THC and really cannot shake the problem. I spend so much money a month on it that i almost cannot pay my bills. In that fact we have some solidarity in our fight against our inner demons.

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            10 months ago

            I struggle with the same exact things and often with the same exact subject.

            In my opinion, it’s basically that the porn industry is bad because it’s misogynistic (and that the current form of dominant pornography seriously incentivizes social media like constant consumption)

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          Im not shaming the kink part, I’m shaming the vanilla part.

          Or to be more serious, yeah it was a shitty comment, I’m sorry. I legitimately have nothing against “gooners”. I do think we should maybe have better content for them though that isn’t just misogynistic slop 90% of the time

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          When I first heard of goon porn and looked for some videos to figure out what it was, I was met with a wall of gay and trans porn compilations. Straight cis goon porn is actually a small minority from what I have seen.

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            Not gonna speak on gay porn because idk how that interfaces with gooning, but I know for a fact the majority of “trans” porn out there is made entirely to fetishize trans people (AKA never made by trans people or with actual respect)

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            10 months ago

            My sense from the goon reddit is that it’s straight people who are fetishizing their own act of cumming, and the cumming of their gooner brethren. So seeing cocks cum is the focus, and I guess it’s especially nice when the cock is attached to a woman