Was thinking about this last night. I have friends who I really don’t know anything about on an emotional level because I’ve drilled into my head it’s a conversation meant to be shared in therapy. But there’s also a part of me that sees the value in getting to know people as humans and not just their 9-5 selves. I have fem-presenting friends who seem to be more open to these types of conversations, but I genuinely want to find the line between sharing and over sharing. As a man, It’s pretty depressing to think about tbh, knowing other men for decades but not really knowing anything about them besides their favorite teams or beer.

Is this a thing that’s exclusive to males? Also, if you have any good literature recommendations for this topic please drop below 😅

  • niph [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    11 months ago

    Anglosphere masculinity is so messed up.

    Why not just try opening up? Be a bit vulnerable yourself with your guy friends, that’ll help them feel safe to reciprocate.

    Wish you the best OP.

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      11 months ago

      It’s so so fucked. The more I deconstruct my previous way of thinking, the more it becomes abundantly obvious that one of the main problems in the world today is toxic masculinity. I guess that’s what the Barbie movie was trying to show but (maybe an unpopular opinion) I think it did a very poor job of it. From the women I talked to about it, their takeaway is that “This shows why we need more girlboss CEOs and business owners.”

      meow-hug

      Maybe that’ll be my New Year’s resolution 🤔Thanks so much <3