• Lmaydev@programming.dev
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    11 months ago

    He reportedly added that the secret to a long marriage was to ensure your spouse was “someone who is always mildly sedated so she can never realise there are better men out there.”

    It 100% was a joke. Just a very inappropriate one.

    • FuglyDuck@lemmy.world
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      11 months ago

      Yeah,

      There’s definitely a non-zero chance that he’s doing exactly that. Abusers frequently joke about abusing their partners; they see abuse largely as normal, and that’s why it’s okay to joke about it. If it plays poorly, everyone just thinks they have bad taste in jokes until the partner turns up dead.

      Then it’s “we had no idea…”

      It’s a glaring red flag, and it should be treated as such.

      • EatATaco@lemm.ee
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        11 months ago

        Holy shit, imagine thinking a self deprecating joke that basically implies his wife is too good for him is a huge red flag that he’s an abuser and actually drugging his wife. Lol your arrogance and presumptuousness is extremely impressive.