• gregorum@lemm.ee
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    No, that’s a broken promise. Possibly considered a failure.

    Lies are intentional from the start, so it would only be a lie if the promise, itself, was never genuine from the beginning, but that’s not in the parameters of the question.

  • Ensign_Crab@lemmy.world
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    If the person making the promise never intended to keep it, yes. Either way, you have no reason to trust their promises again.

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      11 months ago

      Depends on the promise and reason it isn’t fulfilled if you ask me. If something outside of a reasonable obstacle happens obviously you should be able to trust them

  • Call me Lenny/Leni@lemm.ee
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    An intentionally broken promise is even worse than just any lie. To break a promise means you cannot keep a core part of you consistent.

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    Not fulfilling a promise build distrust, but ultimately it depends on multiple factors to determine if an unkept promise is a lie.

    A promise can be made using incomete knowledge of all the variables, and further down the road as you get a clearer picture you realize this promise cannot be kept.

    The intention behind the promise, and how transparent you are about the possible outcome is important between failing to keep your promise and outright lying about it by keeping everyone in the dark as long as possible (to the benefit of the person who made that promise and to the detriment of everyone else).

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    Pretty much yes.

    If a friend/partner promises to change their behaviour or do something specific and does not? Yep, that is a lie.

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      You’ve been down voted a lot here, but I think it’s by people who have never been with a partner who does this. If you promise to do the dishes and then go to bed without doing them over and over, the promise starts to be a lie.

      If your partner says " I promise" “just trust me” and then continuously breaks that promise (even if in the moment they sincerely believe they’ll do better this time) and then fails to follow through, I believe that abuse of trust qualifies at lying. We’re adults. You can review your patterns and know better than to promise something you know you have trouble following though on.

      Just promise to try or say you’ll do your best