For example, I’m a white Jewish guy but I’ve adopted the Japanese practice of keeping dedicated house slippers at the front door.

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    I think if you open your mind a little you may discover someone challenging your beliefs can be helpful to a conversation.

    That’s part of the culture I grew up in: arguing and challenging each other as part of talking. Feel free to try it out or adopt it.

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      You know I understand you. That was the way with me too. It took me a long time into adulthood to tone that down as I wasn’t making friends and people seemed to think I was an asshole. It really sucked cause I seriously didn’t mean any harm or disrespect, but most took it that way for some reason.

      Now, after endless questioning of myself, I’ve learned to adapt to my audience.

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        I have a really hard time with it because it seems so non-spontaneous. What even is the point of discussing things without disagreement?

        I see these conversations that are just people agreeing with each other and I just don’t get it. I don’t want to be a part of it.

        But I don’t want to be alone.

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          Err, I don’t see a point in disagreeing for the sake of it - I have a similar problem to you though. I get awkward or silent when I don’t have anything original, new or even interesting to say, like you are uncomfortable with ‘agreement’.

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      Persuasion works best when you work off commonalities rather than differences. Though I understand you’re trying to go for combative argumentation.