Isn’t the entire point of the profile and matching system to filter incompatible people out? Why can I match with 50 people and not a single one wants to get a coffee or something after exchanging a few pleasantries? Everybody hates these things and yet they refuse to do anything IRL to get off them. Is there some Manchurian candidate activation codeword that I’m missing? I feel like everyone treats this shit solely as an ego booster and actually gets pissed off that anyone tries to interact with them. How do you meet people in hellworld if you don’t drink?
Me after dozens of dead-end back-and-forths that lead to nowhere despite having shared interests and presumably being attracted to each other since we matched: 
Hmm, maybe it’s the extreme commodification of relationships and atomization under capitalism that prevents you from getting anywhere with this garbage 
Nope, must be because @SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net didn’t say my favorite “The Office” quote and send me a playlist with 50 of the greatest songs I’ve never heard that made me instantly fall in love with them. I have no idea what other people expect from these things but I’m not doing labor for someone that I don’t even know is real. Thanks for reading my rant, any advice is appreciated.
People use dating apps with the expectation it’ll just find the perfect person of their dreams. In reality it matches strangers with no connection outside of vague attraction.
Relationships just aren’t built that way they’re done through shared experiences.
Anyway i quite literally ended up pseudo automating the dating apps at one point and if a meetup wasn’t agreed within x messages I’d move on. Then I gave up and ended up dating someone i knew irl for like 8 years.
Most people i know with successful relationships weree matchmade by friend groups or met playing an mmo or some other common interest.
It’s funny, the only time a dating app match actually whether anywhere for me was when I matched with someone I was already friends with from work. Didn’t last too long but it was cool because I already had a foundation to work off of instead of having to awkwardly message a stranger.
Anyway I’ve realized I need more friends. I just struggle to meet new people. I do have a few friends but they’ve never really tried to set me up with anyone so I’m kind of stuck right now.
It’s another avenue of meeting people, that’s all. Or sometimes, your only avenue of meeting people. My work schedule is too chaotic to go to any social hangout place on a regular basis, not that there’s any near me anyway.