• TheLepidopterists [he/him]@hexbear.net
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      5 hours ago

      My work isn’t hard but I have to pay attention to way too many different programs to make taking my laptop on its own to a third location viable as an every day thing.

      Plus coffee shops aren’t free and parks expose you to the weather. I’m not sure what etc even would be here.

      And neither of those locations actually position you to socialize with peers.

      Also I in my role, while I’m not dealing with anyone’s SSN or anything I frequently enough with people’s personal data that it would be inappropriate to let just whoever at the coffee shop view over my shoulder.

      Home or the office are the only real options.

      • MayoPete [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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        2 hours ago

        I hear you and get that there’s no perfect solution. I just don’t want to be forced back to the office. If you want to go, fine, but if I’m working at the same place as you I am not coming in. You can catch me on Zoom or Teams during core hours.

        But also a lot of these problems are solvable.

        I don’t believe you should try to make friends at work. They are good-weather friends and rarely more than that. It’s more likely that they will find a way to screw you over or rat you out to a boss so they can step over you and move up in the org. I’ve had enough co-workers do passive-aggressive BS to me to be wary of that.

        Instead of looking for socializing at work look for a third space elsewhere. Game stores, libraries, community events… left organizing? A MTG Commander deck or RPG book is a good way to add lots of social nights out to the calendar.

        There are screen protectors for laptops that cover what you are doing unless you are looking straight at the screen.

        Obviously don’t go out when its raining, but on a nice clear day? Get out there and get some vitamin D. Touch grass. See some nature. I guarantee when you are old you’ll appreciate those moments of peace more than whatever TPS report you wrote for a paycheck.

        • TheLepidopterists [he/him]@hexbear.net
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          2 hours ago

          I don’t really want to do a line by line conversation but I don’t really feel like my comment is being read in good faith here. It feels like you’re ascribing stances to me that I didn’t take including ones that I explicitly rejected in my original comment because I know that what I’m saying is somewhat heterodox on this site and I wanted to ensure that I didn’t get misread.