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    I had plans this weekend, I started my laundry then youtube put me in the woodworking rabbit hole. Then I got sad because I remembered that probably won’t ever have the means to own a workshop and watch this shit is pointless. Then I started thinking about how I’m busting my ass at work just to tread water. Then i started drinking and watching cartoons. Laundry did not get finished.

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      Yeah thats what you say to youreelf at 5 am when the birds are chirping and the sun is coming out. “Its fine ill just sleep for a couple hours and get up, and then I’ll get an early night tonight to make up for it”.

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      My last therapist said “ADHD is the smoke, the fire is usually trauma or autism.”

      Turns out I have both. Welp, middle-age is as good as any time to start reconciling that your entire life has been a constant struggle to keep a mask on and nearly every crisis I’ve dealt with might not have been a moral failing on my part but actually a dysfunction of some executive control from masking for so long and hiding my own PTSD.

      Whichever you got going on in there, I highly recommend working on the basics. Get more sleep. Make better separation between work and leisure time. Eat better and hydrate better. Try to reduce caffeine and other self-medications. Stop drinking entirely. Get some daily exercise even if it’s just a light walk, particularly after work/class, it really, really helps your brain create healthier separations between work/chores (survival) and rest (loafing and relaxing, playing games, watching media.)

      The other thing I want to scream at everyone from the rooftops, no matter what your exact mental-health issue is, this is universal:

      Your brain is not a reasonable, rational calculator of logic, it is a story-telling machine designed to tell you stories to explain what you’re feeling in order to create some sense of cohesion with the world.

      And that’s it, that’s all it does, all day long. The stories do not have to make sense, it doesn’t have to be reasonable, and you will often think the stories are accurate because they come from your own mind, you will add to the stories, you will roll them over in your brain over and over, feeling worse and worse, hating others, hating yourself, despairing for no outside reason… it’s like being enslaved to your own brain. Learn to identify when you start feeling strong feelings, and watch your brain very carefully, be aware of the way your brain will start ruminating as soon as you feel a negative feeling. If you can nip it right there, if you can break the rumination cycle, you will realize that your own brain is just sabotaging you from the inside and all the stories you tell yourself are fantasies or exaggerations of reality. It might not cure your mental health, but it will give you your days back, it will give you time and energy to fight it harder and more intelligently. You are not your brain. Your brain is not logical.

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    ive got ocd and ADHD so I can’t actually start the new hobby until the old one is finished. my current hobby is a homelab Thats running over 60 services that keep breaking. god save my soul

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        if it makes you feel any better I have not been able to have a new project in 4 years even though Ive got plenty of ideas. I actually tried working on a FOSS car stereo but I couldn’t Focus because of my damn homelab telling me I need to finish it first.

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      2 days ago

      May I interest you in the rabbit hole that is NixOS? Gotta get that perfect reproducible Infrastructure As Code-Config!

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        I would but I’m too deep in with Rocky to switch at this point. SELinux is a major part of my setup

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        The best part of having a homelab/home server is the reproducible dopamine hits. First you’ll get some dopamine just getting the thing up and running, but then each service I decide to tackle and implement gives me a whole new hit of dopamine. Most services you can get up in a day or two of tinkering/learning even as a system noob like me. On top of that, if you don’t manage to get it working, it’s pretty easy to scrap the attempt and try something easier.

        Then you also get dopamine hits whenever something breaks and you manage to fix it. 10/10 would recommend.

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        If you like being in control of your data, like tinkering with new/emerging tech or industry standard tech, want to break free from Google/Apple/Meta/etc, or if you want to have a hobby similar to working on your car without getting your hands dirty and physically destroying your body, homelabbing may be for you. You can really do whatever you want with it. Make an android app repo, create a DNS server, or NTP time sync server, you can host your own videos with PeerTube, have your own private email server, host a Mastodon or Lemmy instance, or a Bluesky personal data server, you can host your own local LLM or have a Google Photos-like AI photo library with Immich. You can use Frigate to get AI powered security cameras. Theoretically, you could even make your homelab your main PC and just carry around a lapdock for your phone to remote into it. Theres really no limit to what you can do other than your willingness to put in the time and effort, and deal with frustrating scenarios when they come up. I’d rate it 9/10 on the worth it scale, just wish some things could be more streamlined.

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          Ok great! I guess I didn’t know the definition was so broad, I’m definitely already toying with Plex, and I had plans for setting up a RAID and a backup schedule so I can safely run immich. A matrix server was on my list too.

          Thanks for the other ideas!

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            Of course! And, if you can deal with the faults people find in it, I recommend Jellyfin over Plex. Its your homelab, not plex’s. You shouldnt have to pay to use your own hardware. :P

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              Yeah I’ve looked into jellyfin, it just isn’t as convenient yet.

              If that improves, or if Plex gets nuked, I’ll make the switch 🤷‍♂️

              I prefer open source where I can 👍

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      i wish i could get my home lab efforts (re)started. the memory of corrupted sd cards and pi hole config mistakes is debilitating…

      not to mention financial anxiety about possibly needing replacement components regularly…

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        I started on an old optiplex I got off eBay for $150, and it ran great for 4 years until I was dusting it out and accidentally snapped off a capacitor from the mobo. The only concerns Ive really had are hard drive failures and I keep a backup so its not too bad. most of my problems are user error and software. Have you used/are you using docker? it makes a lot of the mistakes hurt less because you can just delete the docker volume for the service and start fresh if u screw up.

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          thanks for the eBay recommendation. unfortunately my financial anxiety is much much much more easily triggered than that. I’m working in myself for now.

          i do plan to start using docker if i ever get started on projects again.

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      I’m going to learn how to:

      Program with a basic language

      Sketch a still life

      Draw Celtic knotwork

      Run for my health

      Do photography with my phone camera

      Etc.

      All of these are cheap or free with tools one probably already has. You can take decent pics with a phone, you already have pencils, paper, and pens, and programming can be learned for free online (assuming you have a laptop or PC to work with it on)

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        That’s wonderful! But my comment was specifically about the meme, not about you.

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        That’s wonderful! But my comment was specifically about the meme, not about you.

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      There’s a lot of hobbies you can start your free

      Trust me, I’ve got a lot of free dead hobbies under my belt

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        That’s wonderful! But my comment was specifically about the meme, not about you.

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    I don’t just forget the to-do list. I remember it 3 days in, remember what’s on it, and get so stressed about it I decide that I can just not look at it and it will probably be fine.

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    Exept the staying up late, that is my sunday.

    I wish i could clean and do all over my order, but i know my room mates will mess up my order especially in the kitchen in 2 days

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      For some reason I want to get into skateboarding again and also started learning guitar

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        Guitar is cool, you can do it almost any time too 👍🏼 skateboarding is kind of accident prone, if you heal fast then go for it 😅

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          Yeah, the main thing is weating a helmet, but also I can get bored quicklu from that. guitar is really cool but my fingers hurt a lot

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            I’d say kneepads & gloves with that extra protection for when you ram your hand down onto the asphalt.

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    my weekends are any of:

    • work
    • travel then work
    • travel then frantically try to get as much family time as possible
    • holy shit i actually get to stay home this weekend!? better catch up on all the chores i don’t do since i work so many weekends! [proceeds to not leave bed all weekend]