It’s not the correct answer I’m after - it’s the conversation. If that were the goal, I could’ve just googled it myself. I’d much rather spend a few minutes speculating with you about what bird it might’ve been than have you immediately look up the right answer.
In most cases, when you feel tempted to take out your phone during a face-to-face interaction, you probably shouldn’t.
This is like the whole point in Lemmy for me. There are some advanced Linux people here that are knowledgeable, but most stuff I’m really interested in gets little to no interesting engagement and often results in negative toxic nonsense. This ain’t tech support. Those that act like it are kids regardless of age. I expect everyone to act like they would with any stranger in public; just be cordial and nice to people. Look at this place like a grocery store checkout or DMV line in place where people casually talk and engage with each other. No sane person would start some smalltalk about the weather to have a person say, “hold up while I check the app for you.” Same deal here, don’t be a psycho because of digital anonymity. It is not harmless. Some people like me are disabled where this is all of my outside human contact and stupidity can have a real effect on me. It has a real effect on everyone, and always has. Children are just too stupid and have too shallow of a scope of self awareness to see and acknowledge their path of destruction. Real ethics come with age, and a person with real ethics is completely unchanged by anonymous interchange with anyone.