If my parents ever saw my hexbear posting history, they would make me into history. I have to post this story though, I have to get the word out.

Before I started HRT (in the ancient time period known as 2024), I used to semi-frequently visit this gay hookup spot, because, well, quick and easy sex. Plus I could try to “act like a girl” (everytime I was done, I felt like shit and felt like I was “dirty”. I have no idea what compelled me to put myself through this torture). Putting aside the depressing stuff though …

The best sex I had was with this foot fetishist guy. It’s not my proudest moment, but the one time I actually enjoyed sex with another person was when they actually tried to please me instead of me doing all the work. It just so happened to be that this person’s idea of pleasing me was … sucking on my toes. Like, at first he tried sucking on my dick (which I ended up hating). He tried sucking on my nipples, which felt much better. Then, somehow, he got the bright idea to pull off my shoes (yes, I was having sex nude except for shoes), proceeded to call my feet beautiful, then just went ham on them.

I was completely blindsided, and against the idea. But good lord I had no idea that having your toes sucked felt that good. It was somehow better than having my nipples sucked. Imma be real with y’all, we sleeping on the foot fetish people. This was the biggest case of “don’t judge a book by its cover” I ever experienced. I mean, I still won’t suck toes, but I have to give due respect to the foot fetishists. I wasn’t familiar with your game.

  • ProfessorOwl_PhD [any]@hexbear.netEnglish
    27·
    4 days ago

    Knew a girl with foot-phobia in highschool but never any foot fetishists. Well, not open ones at least.

    they actually tried to please me instead of me doing all the work.

    It’s the key to good sex generally. Like, why even bother having sex if you’re not going to concentrate on getting your partner off? Your hand will do the same job on demand for much less effort.

    • 9to5 [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      14·
      4 days ago

      I agree that one should try to pleasure their partner, but aside from that point:

      I have no experience as a woman but…as a former cis-man.

      Im sorry, but nah. Even mediocre sex is better than masturbation for most Cis-Men. (Talking mostly Cis-Men here) Id go as far as to say the sex would have to be actively bad to be a worse experience than masturbation. Not saying you cant have higher standards, Im just challenging the idea that masturbation is an equal substitute for real sex for a lot of people. There is the whole bonding aspect of sex as well.

      Sex is overrated by society, but it can also be really fucking nice.

      • sodium_nitride [any, any]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
        6·
        3 days ago

        Even mediocre sex is better than masturbation for most Cis-Men. (Talking mostly Cis-Men here) Id go as far as to say the sex would have to be actively bad to be a worse experience than masturbation.

        I wish I could relate T_T. I’ve literally never orgasmed during sex, but I can do it just fine by myself. Even the foot fetish guy finished, tried to jack me off for like 10 minutes before giving up in embarrassment. Idk if this is a psychology thing or what.